Attract Your Soulmate Now: Lisa Nichols on Becoming Magnetic

Bestselling author and CEO of Moving the Masses, Lisa Nichols joined bestselling author of “The Soulmate Secret” Arielle Ford on Day 2 of the online series “Attract Your Soulmate Now,” to discuss how to become magnetic to our soulmate and use the power of prayer and affirmations to break through negative and limiting beliefs.

“My most basic core principle for manifesting love is to be the mate you want to attract,” Nichols told Ford. “Make a list in extreme detail and then become that list.”

She also shared the three types of relationships experienced in life: Lifetime, where the relationship stays with us; Life-Giving, which is often short-term and can be from one day to two years; and Purposeful, which have a divine purpose or several purposes, and when the purpose is complete, the relationship ends.

“Life-giving can be a chance encounter, but we have the most challenge with purposeful. We could have met that person in order to start a business, or for children to be born, or to find our voice,” Nichols said. “The quality of your life-long partnership depends on how much completion work you did on the past relationships because otherwise you are bringing all that in.”

Limiting Belief Exercise
During the event, Nichols shared an exercise to overcome limiting beliefs about relationships, something she learned years ago when attending a Transformational Leadership Council meeting with Jack Canfield in Aspen.

“I do a lot of mirror work, so go to the mirror,” she explained. “First write down the limiting belief you have around love. This will come from the face of fear, doubt and anxiety. This belief does not empower you. You run from this belief.”

In order to uncover this belief, we need to go to the place that isn’t “so bright” in our lives, but it’s important not to stay or get stuck there, Nichols said. It’s about uncovering what is looming there and bringing it to the light so it will no longer have power over us.

The next step is to take the limiting belief and rewrite a new statement to become a new mantra – no more than one sentence. For example, during the seminar with Jack Canflied, Nichols uncovered a limiting belief that she would never have long-lasting, forever love, and turned it around to, “I am worthy of long-lasting, amazing love.”

“It has to be something you can chant, and can only have positive words. It shouldn’t have ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’ like ‘I won’t be alone.’ It should be short, sweet, powerful and counteract the negative,” she noted. “Then get in the mirror and literally sing the mantra every morning right after you brush your teeth. You make the mantra a rhythm and you reprogram yourself with that mantra.”

It also helps to have other people who can say it to you and mirror it back.

Finding the Gift
Speaking about divine timing, Nichols explained every experience we have in relationships – with friends or romantic love – is prepping us for our soulmate and teaching us lessons. It all serves a purpose.

“When I made a list of every relationship I ever had with a man, I [found] the gift I was given in the relationship,” said Nichols. “Now mind you, some gifts may have come wrapped in sandpaper. Some gifts did not feel good to get, but when I unwrapped it and unpacked it, I got the gift.”

She offered the following steps to help others heal themselves from past relationships by finding the gift or gifts they were given from it:

1. At the top of the paper, write down “My Purposeful Relationships.”

2. Circle and underline the word purpose.

3. For each relationship write, “The purpose I was in this relationship was for,” and complete the sentence.

4. Look at and read the list, and say, “I appreciate and celebrate my purposeful relationship, and since the purpose has been completed, so has the relationship,” for each one.

“You are more of who you are because of that relationship,” she noted. “You learned lessons, got blessings. I don’t ever say, ‘we broke up,’ I say ‘we are complete.’ That puts a period at the end of the sentence as opposed to a comma.”

If after writing a purpose, we can’t say, ‘I’m complete,” then keep writing because once it is over, if we tried to go back, it would not be the same, said Nichols.

“It’s the image you give it,” she said. “We freeze-frame our relationship at the best point and then we cut and paste it into our mind, thinking it will always be that. It’s a fantasy and our reality is paying for it.”

Every single experience we have makes us who we are today, Nichols said. As a result, our soulmate will get the best version of us.


Attract Your Soulmate Now Day 1: Arielle Ford & Marianne Williamson

The “Attract Your Soulmate Now” online series by Evolving Wisdom kicked off the first day with bestselling author of “The Soulmate Secret,” Arielle Ford and bestselling author Marianne Williamson.

When it comes to attracting love, the real question is not how do we attract love, but rather what are we doing to repel love or keep it at bay, Williamson said. Many of us are carrying around baggage from old relationships or experiences from our childhood, and these things may be affecting our attraction factor.

“I know my father loved me, but like millions of other people, I felt an emotional withhold at puberty,” Williamson shared. “We grow up and understand and recognize it, but if we did not feel totally cherished emotionally by our father figure or if a man did not feel respected as men from the mother figure, we carry that into adulthood.”

Williamson said she looks to God or a higher power to repair her on “the immortal plane where these wounds do not exist.” It is in this realm where we are “divinely parented by a father, mother God.” As long as we make this our primary relationship, then when we enter into a relationship with a man or women, we are already complete and not looking for the other person to fill this role.

“The mistakes I make with men are the same with my friends, my daughter or anyone else, and has to do with the various layers of defense,” she explained. “Real love is an ego death – the surrender of the false belief of separation.”

The ego does whatever it can to keep love at bay through anger, attack, selfishness and blame. The job is not to become more loving, because all we truly are is love. The real goal is to find the areas within ourselves to deflect love.

“It doesn’t matter how you got where you are, but where you are now. In my life, analyzing the things I did that I knew kept love at by did not free me,” Williamson noted. “What did and does was, ‘Dear God, Please take this from me.’”

7 Simple Shifts to Manifest Love
Arielle Ford shared seven simple shifts people need to make in order to manifest love in their lives, and explained how over the next 9 days of the online series “Attract Your Soulmate Now,” 50 experts will come together to address each area.

Shift 1 – Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs – We must let go of the stories and truths we believe and tell ourselves about what love means, such as ‘I can’t trust people who say they care about me,’ or ‘Even if I find love, my partner will leave.’ By holding onto these, we are actually pushing love away, Ford explained.

Shift 2 – Letting Go of Past Resentments – “You will never find the right person if you never let go of the wrong one,” Ford noted. If we are holding onto any emotional baggage from the past – either consciously or unconsciously – we are blocking the ability to attract new love into our lives. When we hold onto past injuries, they continue to hurt us in the present.

Shift 3 – Loving and Caring for Yourself – We have all heard how we need to love ourselves first before we can love another, but many people brush this off. However, in order to attract our soulmate, we need to be our own greatest fan and start taking excellent care of ourselves, Ford said. “Our relationships with others are a mirror of our relationship with ourselves,” she noted. “When you prioritize your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, the result is you will radiate vitality and become a powerful magnet for pulling love into your life.”

Shift 4 – Tapping Into the Universe and Connecting to a Higher Power – Our purpose for having a relationship has shifted significantly over the past 25 years from security and procreation to longing for a deep connection and a partner who will support the development of our highest potential. Part of attracting this is to be in touch with a force greater then ourselves.

Shift 5 – Getting in Sync with the Opposite Sex – Men and women communicate differently and value different things in relationships. Understanding how the opposite sex ticks is a powerful tool for creating love, and in seminar 9 of the series, Dr. John Gray will reveal the real reason some women are attracted to bad boys and what to do about it, as well as why powerful women need a man and how to recognize your ideal partner.

Shift 6 – Exploring and Practicing the Art of Communication – Even though we know how important good communication is, many of us suffer heartache over a major communication breakdown with a romantic partner, said Ford. It’s important to understand how to do it well.

Shift 7 – Discovering and Embracing New Dating Skills – “There is no area of attracting love that can be quite as intimidating or scary or confusing as the modern age of dating,” Ford noted. Today’s electronic age means we need to understand that dating has gone digital and what the best ways to approach it are for us to achieve success.

You can still sign up for the series here!


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