When it comes to attracting love, the real question is not how do we attract love, but rather what are we doing to repel love or keep it at bay, Williamson said. Many of us are carrying around baggage from old relationships or experiences from our childhood, and these things may be affecting our attraction factor.
“I know my father loved me, but like millions of other people, I felt an emotional withhold at puberty,” Williamson shared. “We grow up and understand and recognize it, but if we did not feel totally cherished emotionally by our father figure or if a man did not feel respected as men from the mother figure, we carry that into adulthood.”
Williamson said she looks to God or a higher power to repair her on “the immortal plane where these wounds do not exist.” It is in this realm where we are “divinely parented by a father, mother God.” As long as we make this our primary relationship, then when we enter into a relationship with a man or women, we are already complete and not looking for the other person to fill this role.
“The mistakes I make with men are the same with my friends, my daughter or anyone else, and has to do with the various layers of defense,” she explained. “Real love is an ego death – the surrender of the false belief of separation.”
The ego does whatever it can to keep love at bay through anger, attack, selfishness and blame. The job is not to become more loving, because all we truly are is love. The real goal is to find the areas within ourselves to deflect love.
“It doesn’t matter how you got where you are, but where you are now. In my life, analyzing the things I did that I knew kept love at by did not free me,” Williamson noted. “What did and does was, ‘Dear God, Please take this from me.’”
7 Simple Shifts to Manifest Love
Arielle Ford shared seven simple shifts people need to make in order to manifest love in their lives, and explained how over the next 9 days of the online series “Attract Your Soulmate Now,” 50 experts will come together to address each area.
Shift 1 – Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs – We must let go of the stories and truths we believe and tell ourselves about what love means, such as ‘I can’t trust people who say they care about me,’ or ‘Even if I find love, my partner will leave.’ By holding onto these, we are actually pushing love away, Ford explained.
Shift 2 – Letting Go of Past Resentments – “You will never find the right person if you never let go of the wrong one,” Ford noted. If we are holding onto any emotional baggage from the past – either consciously or unconsciously – we are blocking the ability to attract new love into our lives. When we hold onto past injuries, they continue to hurt us in the present.
Shift 3 – Loving and Caring for Yourself – We have all heard how we need to love ourselves first before we can love another, but many people brush this off. However, in order to attract our soulmate, we need to be our own greatest fan and start taking excellent care of ourselves, Ford said. “Our relationships with others are a mirror of our relationship with ourselves,” she noted. “When you prioritize your emotional, physical and spiritual well-being, the result is you will radiate vitality and become a powerful magnet for pulling love into your life.”
Shift 4 – Tapping Into the Universe and Connecting to a Higher Power – Our purpose for having a relationship has shifted significantly over the past 25 years from security and procreation to longing for a deep connection and a partner who will support the development of our highest potential. Part of attracting this is to be in touch with a force greater then ourselves.
Shift 5 – Getting in Sync with the Opposite Sex – Men and women communicate differently and value different things in relationships. Understanding how the opposite sex ticks is a powerful tool for creating love, and in seminar 9 of the series, Dr. John Gray will reveal the real reason some women are attracted to bad boys and what to do about it, as well as why powerful women need a man and how to recognize your ideal partner.
Shift 6 – Exploring and Practicing the Art of Communication – Even though we know how important good communication is, many of us suffer heartache over a major communication breakdown with a romantic partner, said Ford. It’s important to understand how to do it well.
Shift 7 – Discovering and Embracing New Dating Skills – “There is no area of attracting love that can be quite as intimidating or scary or confusing as the modern age of dating,” Ford noted. Today’s electronic age means we need to understand that dating has gone digital and what the best ways to approach it are for us to achieve success.
You can still sign up for the series here!