I recently coached a woman on the law of attraction who was afraid the law wasn’t working for her. For the purpose of this article, we will call her Dea. She felt she had done the things she was supposed to do, including writing up affirmations, posting them on her wall, reading them daily, and feeling positive emotion as she read them. Dea believed she was following the law to the letter, but for some unexplained reason, the saw apparently did not work for her.
How often have you felt the same way? How many times have you believed the law of attraction works for everybody else but you?
Trust me, if you’ve felt that way, you are not alone. I’ve been there. I can’t stand on a pedestal and preach that I’ve always gotten what I wanted when I wanted it, but I also know realize that what is standing between me and what I desire is … ME!
The first step is taking responsibility for your life. When you believe the law of attraction works for some people and not for others, you become a victim. You are giving your power away by believing you don’t have the power to create, and by allowing yourself to believe you can’t have what other people have.
This feeling is negative. It is a feeling of lack. It is a vacuum, which sucks your dreams into darkness that feels so vast and thorough it is hard to believe you could ever retrieve them.
What was stopping Dea from getting what she desired? The first part was her victim mentality, thinking that outside events were stopping her from getting what she wanted. The second part was Dea believed she was doing what she needed to be doing in order to attract, but what she failed to recognize was she needed to pay attention to her subconscious thoughts.
This is where it gets tricky.
How do you know what your subconscious thoughts are? After all they are beneath the surface. There are two ways to know if a subconscious thought is driving your behavior.
- Life Patterns. These are patterns that appear over and over again in your life. For example, no matter what job you take, you keep working for an incompetent boss. You might take a totally different job in a place four states away from your last job, and yet your boss exhibits the same characteristics you thought you left behind.
- Emotional Triggers. These are triggers that cause you to have an irrational response. Perhaps somebody innocently tells you that you have an accent. This causes you to get angry, throw a fit and leave the person wondering what the heck just happened. This was an irrational emotional response.
Once you’ve identified you have a subconscious thought preventing you from feeling good, the next step is to recognize there is a limiting belief behind the thought. The limiting belief is the belief causing you to think you will always be abandoned. People will never love you. You will never get the job you desire. No matter how hard you try, it won’t work anyway. You’re not good enough, or bad things always happen to you.
So how does all of this fit into the law of attraction? You are not emitting positive vibrations when you are harboring limiting thoughts. You might be able to say your affirmations out loud, and maybe even feel for a few moments they are real the same way Dea did, but within you this subconscious voice is selling you on a different story.
There are several different methods out there to use in order to help with limiting beliefs. These include:
- Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
- The Sedona Method
- Access Consciousness
- The Emotion Code
- The Healing Codes
- Theta Healing
The key is to allow yourself to be in the most positive place possible, so you can believe you can achieve your goals and not just hope you can. Any of these methods can move you beyond subconscious beliefs and allow you to not only FEEL as if your dreams are real, but to experience them.
Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.
Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking.
To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at firstname.lastname@example.org, through her website at www.ucancreatesuccess.com or on Facebook.