Where in the World Is My Soul Mate?

By Amy Leigh Mercree

Single, spiritual, kind, caring, evolved, trustworthy, fun – those were some of the qualities I searched for in a potential partner. After 14 years of searching, I was tired.  My search yielded plenty of guys who had some of those qualities, but not my guy.  Not my true love and true partner.

So… I took a dating sabbatical. For one year, I focused on me. What did I want to do? How did I want to live? Complete autonomy. And I loved it. I truly did. Sure, sometimes I felt lonely, but I am blessed with amazing friends and family so it was always short lived.

The most powerful thing I did during that time was regularly infuse my being with pure white light. Life force. My health flourished. My creativity bloomed. Everything raised in vibratory frequency, and I was as patient as I could be.

Then one night I dreamed of a man made of the same pure white light. I knew it was him. I went to work clearing any old issues, healed family relationships that needed it, and when he arrived, I was ready.

Being proactive and doing all of the healing and preparing is crucial, but the one thing we can’t consciously manipulate is timing. Timing is divine. It springs from universal energy and is self-regulating and self-correcting. For people looking for deep, spiritual love that is 100 percent honoring, the timing must be right.

Here are three tips to help divine timing along:

1.Raise Your Vibration
The more clear and bright your vibratory frequency, the more easily you will draw in other high-vibe people, including your partner. Plus, with clarity and a radiant light shining from you, your intentions will be much more clear to the universe. Then you can take action to bring them to reality.

Exercise: The Waving White Sheet
Here is a quick and easy way to raise your vibration: Sit with your eyes closed and breathe deeply. Envision a sheet of pure, bright, white light. Watch it wave in a gentle unseen breeze. Draw the sheet forth into the room before you. See it shine brightly. Raise your hands and say aloud to the sheet: “You are joy and light.”  Watch it wave with its new vibratory flavor. Now, draw it into your body and feel it wave through you. Sit with that and when you are ready, allow it to assimilate into your bodily tissue, bones, and systems.

2.Be Sacred
You are sacred! The sooner you integrate that truth into your being, the sooner you will experience deep, soul mate love with an evolved and conscious partner. You must see yourself as sacred and your partner as sacred to have a truly healthy, spiritual partnership. Sacred means special, precious and a treasure of true beauty. It is not meant here religiously. Your evolved, true love must see him or herself as sacred and you as sacred. This is the foundation for deep, satisfying, soul mate love. Embrace it and don’t settle for anything less!

Exercise: Simple Sacredness Activity
Create a poster that says: “I am sacred.” Decorate it with things you love and that represent you. If you love music, put pictures of notes and sheet music.  Use your favorite colors and textures and create a representation of your wonderfulness. Hang this poster over you bed and each morning and night say aloud, “I am sacred.” Program your cells with that truth. Notice how you feel when you say it. Integrate that feeling into your daily life.

3. Soul Mates are All Around
Don’t miss the soul mates all around you! Be present to your life and all of the beauty already within it. See your many soul mates: your best friend, certain family members, even people you work with. Soul mates are people we have an instant affinity for and an effortless connection blooms easily. Count your blessings every day and be truly grateful for the soul mates you have. That primes the pump for divine timing combined with action steps to deliver your true love, exactly on time.

amy leigh mercree - spiritual datingAmy Leigh Mercree is an expert dating & relationship coach, entrepreneur, adventure guide and internationally acclaimed author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, and Soul Mates.” This June, Mercree is teaching “Spiritual Romance: Reawakening the Sacred in Your Love Life,” at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY.  See more information on the seminar here. And visit her Web site www.spiritualgirlsguide.com for you complete evolved dater’s toolkit!

Spiritual Dating: Declare Your Independence From Inauthenticity

By Amy Leigh Mercree

Too often, dating today means being someone who you aren’t. You mold yourself to fit with your date and their interests, values and desires all the while denying the authentic person that lurks within. Most of the time, this is a subtle change in how you act, what you choose to do or even how you talk. But this approach is not only unsatisfying and unhealthy, it’s also the least effective approach if your objective is to find lasting love with a compatible partner.

Enter Spiritual Dating: dating as if all life is sacred. This month declare your independence from inauthenticity and be the real you! The three R’s of authenticity will guide your way.

Real love comes from real connection. For real connection to be born both people have to reveal their authentic selves in greater and greater increments over the course of dating. Do this in manageable ways that feel safe like only saying you like a type of music or movie if you truly do. Be the REAL you with courage and confidence. You are a treasure and the right dating partner will easily see your radiance!

Rare and authentically wonderful people do exist! Spot them by boosting your discernment and intuition. Developing discernment takes confidence in yourself and a commitment to listen to your intuition. Self-observation also helps. Notice how you react and feel around certain people. The flutter in your chest plus a slight sense of being off-balance you felt with the boyfriend who ended up being unsupportive and using drugs may be the signal to watch for next time. Use your knowledge of your emotional and physical sensations to your advantage. Choose to discern the reality of situations.

Your intuition is already there inside of you and ready to roll. Notice your gut feelings, your first impressions. If you get the sense from a visceral place that someone is really kind, caring and nice, they probably are. Follow up by observing. Do they act that way in all or most situations?  Use your discernment and intuition to sense the rare, special people with whom you may be compatible. These will be your authentic partners who can meet your authenticity with their own truth and create the refreshing cocktail of an honest relationship.

Refreshing treats in the dating world are: fun, easy, totally non-awkward conversations and dates. Try to create that for yourself on dates by being yourself and having a light, sparkling joyful quality to your life, and therefore your dates. Don’t put up pretenses and false fronts. Instead share your truth. Whether you are the ultimate girly girl, a die-hard tomboy, a militant vegan, or the poster child for the steak of the month club, there are plenty of people who can appreciate and enjoy your true self. Be your refreshingly real authentic self! That kind of confidence is captivating and your dates will respond, especially if they are the right person for you. Let that confidence extend into the types of activities you do in your life and on your dates.  Try new things and create a life that is authentic and filled with your own personal brand of joy; then great authentic dates with be the icing on the cake!

Amy Leigh Mercree is the author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, & Soul Mates, a Spiritual Dating & Relationship Coach, and a Medical Intuitive. For more fun articles and her dating advice column visit her blog and website: www.spiritualgirlsguide.com.