Spiritual Dating: The New Sexual Revolution

Many people believed it was a desirable thing to go out and assert their power and independence by having whatever sexual experiences they wanted. But things have changed and many of these people have taken up yoga or meditation. They’ve gone green, and have chosen to live a more conscious and spiritual life. And for those who are not married or in long-term, committed relationships, that old way of dating and mating doesn’t feel right anymore.

A quiet sexual revolution is happening and it is called “Spiritual Dating.” You may be already doing it and not even know it, or you may be seeking a new, more conscious way to experience your love life and this may be your answer.

Spiritual Dating means dating as if all people are sacred. Imagine that. What would that be like? In this case, sacred means special, a treasure, and worthy of respect and kindness.

The tenets of Spiritual Dating apply in the following three ways:

You – You are sacred. Picture dating as if you are sacred. What would that be like? You would be recognizing your specialness and feeling confident in it. You would accept only dates that resonated for you, and not put yourself in situations that didn’t feel right. You would honor and respect the specialness of your body, and it would transform your sex life and encourage major discernment as far as partners go. In short, you would be on your way to creating emotional safety for yourself.

Your Dates – Your dates are sacred. Each potential date you meet is a sacred being, even if he or she may not be the right person for you. In the case of your exes, he or she may not have been a good person for you to for you to date, but they are all sacred. Your behavior in this case would change because if someone asked you on a date, you would see them as sacred, and treat them with kindness – even if you said no to the date. And if after a few dates you weren’t feeling it, you’d be kind but honest and straight with them, letting them know so they could move on. You’d behave with an extra high standard of integrity, therefore, you would also be more likely to magnetically attract dates with that same high standard for their own behavior.

Being Seen – People you date must see you and themselves as sacred. That means they are doing the above too!  For your sex life, this is the revolution! You and your potential partner see each other as worthy of respect and kindness, and as special, sacred people. That is the only way you choose to share intimacy. This one change can transform your entire love life. Really give some thought to how that could apply in your life. It may not be easy, but it is far more satisfying, and creates an internal environment of self-trust and self-love. Your actions will even be demonstrating to your body how sacred you are! That conscious choice can actually resolve health issues in the reproductive and whole body arenas.

Spiritual dating and sacred sexuality are a sexual and spiritual evolution. Have you already started down this path?  Share your stories and ask your questions here in the comments section.

Amy Leigh Mercree is the author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, & Soul Mates,” a Spiritual Dating & Relationship Coach, and a Medical Intuitive. For more fun articles and her dating advice column visit her blog and website:www.spiritualgirlsguide.com.


How to Bring the Spiritual & Sizzle Back to Your Love Life

By Amy Leigh Mercree

Summer breezes, swimming on hot days, and steamy nights provide the perfect backdrop for a love life makeover. Enacting some of the principles of “Spiritual Dating” can make it happen! Spiritual Dating can take an unsatisfying romantic life and turn it into a fulfilling, sensual and emotionally safe celebration of love in all its forms.

Here are two easy ways to bring the spiritual and sizzle back to your love life – whether single or coupled:

1. Embrace your sacredness. Bring your focus to the idea that you are sacred. Sacred means precious, special and a treasure of true beauty – that’s you! Integrate this truth by saying aloud “I am sacred,” and notice how it feels in your body, and how it uplifts your body’s energy. Then, set an intention to integrate your sacredness into your physical body’s cellular structure by saying the “I am sacred” affirmation aloud daily.

Next, take a look at how you act. Do you act and speak as if you know you are sacred? Do your actions honor who you are? Do your choices affirm your sacredness? When you start living your sacred truth, you won’t allow yourself to do things that demean you or dishonor you. Instead you will choose your health and happiness. Challenge yourself today to make this step part of your love life makeover – live in a way that affirms how sacred you are.

The funny thing about integrating your sacredness is it makes space for you to feel sexier. When you can trust yourself and your actions to be fully honoring, something beautiful begins to happen. You feel emotionally safe. Finally, you can really trust yourself, and that means when you feel it is right, you can really let loose and experience the ecstatic, climactic, sensual, pleasurable truth of who you really are. You can do this solo or with a trusted partner and either way your love life will be better.  Single or coupled, you will be living an important principle of Spiritual Dating – to honor, revel in and embrace your sacredness.

2. Get sensual. Focus on your five senses.

As it heats up outside, we often feel awakened to our physical bodies and to our physical presence. Embrace this and get sensual with it. Beyond the romantic connotations of sensuality there is the core of the idea: the five senses.

Our senses give us information all of the time, but they are an often untapped reservoir of joy and enjoyment we could have in our lives. One of the reasons we are here in human bodies is to enjoy the experience of duality, of having a body. The sights, sounds, smells, tastes, sensations of being human are a rich, satisfying cacophony of potential pleasure and enjoyment.

What can you do today to embrace your sensuality?

– Make icy, refreshing snow cones
– Swim in a ocean or lake feeling the water caress your skin
– Walk in a field of flower and grass smells
– Look at the passing colors as you drive down a country road
– Light candles before bed and let yourself enter an unfocused state as you observe the play of light on the walls
– Fill your windowsills with glasses full of water with different blends of food coloring
– Walk barefoot in the grass or on the beach
– Spend time in the forest and kinesthetically feel the majestic rough bark of different types of trees
– Dance to your favorite songs with the windows open to let in the fresh air
– Have a lemonade and sorbet tasting party with friends
– Melt ice cubes on your lover’s body
– Try skinny dipping on a hot night

Take ownership over your enjoyment of life and make a commitment to experience life’s pleasure on a daily basis. When you are enjoying life and in touch with your body, you radiate more confident and more sensual energy. Be the sacred, sensual being you truly are and enjoy your love life like never before!

Amy Leigh Mercree is the author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, & Soul Mates,” a Spiritual Dating & Relationship Coach, and a Medical Intuitive. For more fun articles and her dating advice column visit her blog and Web site: www.spiritualgirlsguide.com.

The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating

Are you single and looking for a life partner who is open, mindful and respects you as a spiritual being? Are you tired of being the person you think people would want to date rather than who you truly are? Then “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex and Soul Mates,” by medical intuitive and conscious dating coach Amy Leigh Mercree, is the book for you!

Mercree guides readers on the path she refers to as “spiritual dating,” which includes healing the past, opening the heart and utilizing spiritual tools, including intuition, to find the right partner. The book is filled with exercises, including a post-date compatibility exercise, real-life examples, and clear direction for spiritual people seeking love. And it’s not just for the girls – men can learn a lot from the book too!

The book comes out on Jan. 15, but you can pre-order your copy now! Start the New Year off right, and find love in 2012!