Creating Romantic Abundance in Your Life

By Amy Leigh Mercree

If you are reading this article, you have access to the Internet and most likely a safe place quiet enough for you to indulge in some reading for entertainment and personal enhancement. You have time to devote to leisure and recreational activities, including reading, which means you are rich compared to much of the world’s population.

We are incredibly abundant in our lives, yet, for many there is an emptiness to be filled. We seek to fill it with romantic love, things and interaction. Some of us search for spiritual connection to fill the emptiness, but many are living with a sense of lack within.

How can we be so abundant, but live in varying states of internal lack?

It has become the norm in society to cultivate cravings and then endeavor to fill them. We need those new skinny jeans for a night out – then we’ll feel beautiful and like we fit in. We have to have those special face cleansing cloths to pamper our skin after a workout – then we will give our face the best and prove to ourselves we are worthy of the very best.

What if we could step outside of the hamster wheel of external validation? What if we could find our worth within? What if we could be filled with the divine power of our own uniqueness? How would our lives change?

Well, we would live from our creative souls and from a sense of sharing and community, and could think in terms of interconnection among all life. And we can start this mindset blooming within our beings now.

Start with a nightly list in your journal of 30 things you are grateful for in your life. Look at how abundant you are! Record each night what you are grateful for, and feel the blessings of your life with your heart. The more attention you place on the positive, the more positive you create in your life. It’s simple, natural law. Your attention creates your reality.

You are also romantically abundant whether you are coupled or single. Take a gratitude inventory of all the love and caring in your life. Do you feel love between you and your sister’s dog? Between you and a close friend? Between you and a coworker? Did you help your mother clean her car? Did you share a smile with a neighbor? Did you snuggle with your boss’s cat when you stopped by to feed her? Did your best friend send you a sweet card? There is love everywhere. There is caring flowing between people, animals and plants all around you. Interconnection is a Web designed to help you experience loving abundance. Let yourself tap into it!

When you choose to experience interconnection and loving abundance, you give your romantic life a boost. When you notice and identify those moments of abundance and express your appreciation and thanks for them, you exponentialize them. You harness the electrical charge and energy they contain, and it infuses your life – including your love life. You can create romantic abundance today by counting your blessings and choosing to experience love and caring each day. Share your love, experience true abundance, and romance will follow.

amy leigh mercree - spiritual datingAmy Leigh Mercree is an expert dating & relationship coach, entrepreneur, adventure guide and internationally acclaimed author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, and Soul Mates.” Visit for your complete evolved dater’s toolkit, and follow Amy on Twitter: @AmyLeighMercree.



How to Bring the Spiritual & Sizzle Back to Your Love Life

By Amy Leigh Mercree

Summer breezes, swimming on hot days, and steamy nights provide the perfect backdrop for a love life makeover. Enacting some of the principles of “Spiritual Dating” can make it happen! Spiritual Dating can take an unsatisfying romantic life and turn it into a fulfilling, sensual and emotionally safe celebration of love in all its forms.

Here are two easy ways to bring the spiritual and sizzle back to your love life – whether single or coupled:

1. Embrace your sacredness. Bring your focus to the idea that you are sacred. Sacred means precious, special and a treasure of true beauty – that’s you! Integrate this truth by saying aloud “I am sacred,” and notice how it feels in your body, and how it uplifts your body’s energy. Then, set an intention to integrate your sacredness into your physical body’s cellular structure by saying the “I am sacred” affirmation aloud daily.

Next, take a look at how you act. Do you act and speak as if you know you are sacred? Do your actions honor who you are? Do your choices affirm your sacredness? When you start living your sacred truth, you won’t allow yourself to do things that demean you or dishonor you. Instead you will choose your health and happiness. Challenge yourself today to make this step part of your love life makeover – live in a way that affirms how sacred you are.

The funny thing about integrating your sacredness is it makes space for you to feel sexier. When you can trust yourself and your actions to be fully honoring, something beautiful begins to happen. You feel emotionally safe. Finally, you can really trust yourself, and that means when you feel it is right, you can really let loose and experience the ecstatic, climactic, sensual, pleasurable truth of who you really are. You can do this solo or with a trusted partner and either way your love life will be better.  Single or coupled, you will be living an important principle of Spiritual Dating – to honor, revel in and embrace your sacredness.

2. Get sensual. Focus on your five senses.

As it heats up outside, we often feel awakened to our physical bodies and to our physical presence. Embrace this and get sensual with it. Beyond the romantic connotations of sensuality there is the core of the idea: the five senses.

Our senses give us information all of the time, but they are an often untapped reservoir of joy and enjoyment we could have in our lives. One of the reasons we are here in human bodies is to enjoy the experience of duality, of having a body. The sights, sounds, smells, tastes, sensations of being human are a rich, satisfying cacophony of potential pleasure and enjoyment.

What can you do today to embrace your sensuality?

– Make icy, refreshing snow cones
– Swim in a ocean or lake feeling the water caress your skin
– Walk in a field of flower and grass smells
– Look at the passing colors as you drive down a country road
– Light candles before bed and let yourself enter an unfocused state as you observe the play of light on the walls
– Fill your windowsills with glasses full of water with different blends of food coloring
– Walk barefoot in the grass or on the beach
– Spend time in the forest and kinesthetically feel the majestic rough bark of different types of trees
– Dance to your favorite songs with the windows open to let in the fresh air
– Have a lemonade and sorbet tasting party with friends
– Melt ice cubes on your lover’s body
– Try skinny dipping on a hot night

Take ownership over your enjoyment of life and make a commitment to experience life’s pleasure on a daily basis. When you are enjoying life and in touch with your body, you radiate more confident and more sensual energy. Be the sacred, sensual being you truly are and enjoy your love life like never before!

Amy Leigh Mercree is the author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, & Soul Mates,” a Spiritual Dating & Relationship Coach, and a Medical Intuitive. For more fun articles and her dating advice column visit her blog and Web site: