Emerging Women Live Coverage Part 3: Gabrielle Bernstein – Miracles Now

On Sunday of the 2nd annual Emerging Women Live conference “Changing the World Through Feminine Leadership and Entrepreneurship,” in New York City, Gabrielle Bernstein, New York Times bestselling author of “May Cause Miracles” and “Miracles Now,” took the stage to discuss the power of our presence.

Bernstein shared how she was once running a PR company and on the outside it looked like she had all she desired to be successful and happy — but on the inside her world was falling apart. She was addicted to drugs and alcohol, and when she woke up at 25 years old in a stranger’s apartment not knowing where she was or how she got there, she realized she needed to change.

She went home, opened her journal and wrote — “there has to be a better way.” She then heard the voice of her intuition for the first time — an inner voice — tell her to “get clean and you will live a life beyond your wildest dreams.” She realized she needed to stop looking outside herself for what she already had within her.

“I got clean. I found a recovery group, and immediately spun back into this childlike faith I had forgotten,” she shared with the audience. “Within a month I was guided to a beautiful mentor in my recovery group who said, ‘I have a book for you.’ She handed me Marianne Williamson’s ‘A Return to Love,’ which is basically the cliff notes for a metaphysical book ‘A Course in Miracles.’ I read the entire book in one night.”

Bernstein decided to become a student of “A Course in Miracles” and began doing the workbook. The Course teaches that “through the experience of forgiveness we reorganize our beliefs systems and shift to love…the moment we choose again, to forgive, to see as situation with a loving lens instead of a fearful lens,” is when miracles occur, she said.

She shared five principles with the audience that she has been using to change her perceptions and shift from fear to love for the past nine years. These include:

1. Become the Non-Judgmental Witness of Your Fear — She asked the audience to be willing to take a fearless inventory of what is going on in their lives and take full ownership of what it means to be in negativity and fear. “Yes I am an addict I’m not stepping into my power. I’m talking a lot of shit about people. I am stuck in fear. I am stuck in a bad relationship,” she said. “But in a non judgmental way so you don’t get stuck in fear. Get brutally honest with yourself and your notebook. What is it that you want to transform?” It’s about owning if you are not showing up for your husband, business, etc. and accepting where you are first.

gabby-72. Invite In a Higher Power — She shared a line from the Course that says: The presence of fear is a sure sign that you are relying on your own strength. “How are you blocking and controlling the natural flow of your life by relying on your own strength, and how do you get to a place where you can start to redirect?” she asked, explaining we can all tap into a higher presence, whether we call it God, inspiration, energy or the Universe. She shared a daily prayer she uses every morning directly from the Course: “Where would you have me go, what would you have me do, what would you have me say and to whom?”

She also urged the audience to take up a meditation practice, as she has found it to be the most important tool she has in her life. “What I find to be most important to me in my life, more than husband, work, family and friends, is the time I spend on my meditation pillow,” she said. “My meditation has offered me everything. Why I’m standing here today, why I’m a New York Times bestselling author, why I have a healthy relationship, why I have a healthy body, and why I can live in this city [New York]. Do you want to go big in your life? My answer is meditate.”

3. Measure Your Success By How Much Fun You Are Having — “Joy is your responsibility,” she said. “We need to elevate joy in our own lives. If you are feeling powerless, lean toward joy . . . release the littleness, the story of ‘I’m not where I want to be yet,’ or ‘my guy sucks’ and say  I’m going to show up.’”

4. Our presence is Our Power — It’s not how well we are dressed or what it says on our business card or even what we say or do for a living — our power is how we be, said Bernstein. “Have you even been in the presence of someone who is really embodying who they are? You feel good. Because you can recognize yourself,” she said. “ In every given situation, if you are leaning toward joy, you will be guided to show up, and you will be guided to your power and to be.”

5. Be the Light — “In any given moment we have the capacity to show up with our darkness or we can be the light,” she explained. “Any given moment offers the opportunity to show back up, to choose again. You can smother the darkness and dissolve all boundaries with love. Take ownership and bring the light.”

As a result of practicing these principles, Bernstein said she truly has created a life far beyond her wildest dreams and just celebrated nine years of recovery and one year of marriage. She also shared a mantra mediation for people to use to bring them out of negativity. It is “Ek Ong Kar Sat Gur Prasad,” and the music she played was from “Meditations for Transformation: The Expansive Spirit,” by Jai-Jagdesh.”

Read Part 1 with Kris Carr on Resilience

Read Part 2 with Sera Beak on Unleashing Your Soul’s Voice

Read Part 4 with Danielle LaPorte

Emerging Women Live Coverage Part 1: Kris Carr on Resilience

The 2nd annual Emerging Women Live conference “Changing the World Through Feminine Leadership and Entrepreneurship,” took place October 9-12, 2014 in New York City — the brainchild of Chantal Pierrat, who served as vice president of sales and marketing for Sounds True publishing company for more than 10 years. She opened the conference explaining how fierce competitiveness used to be the way to achieve success, and now it’s about partnership and collaboration.

“In 10 years women are inheriting two-thirds of this nations wealth and it means working together collectively and empowering ourselves as an individual,” she said opening the conference Thursday night. “Emerging means to come into being, transformation, to become manifest, to come into view, to come out from under. It’s not just happening to women. It’s happening to the feminine.”

She quoted statistics such as 17 percent of boards have women represented, and only 3 percent of women are CEO’s in the United States. But assured the audience, the trends are changing at an amazing rate.

“Right now so we have momentum behind us, and that momentum is turning into an emergence,” she said. “Some studies of major corporations show those most inclusive of women at the top are performing 35 percent better than their counterparts. Diversity is the future. Polarity breeds creativity.”

Kris Carr: The Feminine Side of Resilience
Bestselling author of “Crazy Sexy Diet” and “Crazy Sexy Kitchen,” Kris Carr — known for her passion around green juice and wellness — started her keynote speech talking about the concept of emerging, and explaining like healing, emerging is a process.

“Emerging happens in cycles, it happens in seasons, and your job is to know what season you are in,” she said. “When you know the season you are in you don’t force it. You don’t push the river.”

When we honor our natural rhythm and cycle we get closer to our purpose, which has nothing to do with our vocation or mission, she shared. Our purpose is joy, and we need to evaluate everything we do in our lives from our relationships to our businesses, and ask is this bringing us closer to joy our further away from it? The same is true for the people we are hanging out with — “are they inspiring you or are they tiring you?” she asked the audience.

kris-carrOur spiritual assignment is to have a dialogue with ourselves on a regular basis to check in and see what we need to feel “sturdy, strong and empowered,” because the more we have this dialogue the more we will become connected with ourselves. For Carr, she knows she needs more time alone and embracing the fact that she is an introvert rather than an extrovert, to hang with solid girlfriends, men in her life that support her, to play on a regular basis, and to have a three-dimensional life, she said.

“What is one thing you need in order to connect with your resilience and with yourself,” she asked the audience.

Carr shared her story of being diagnosed with an incurable form of Stage 4 cancer at age 30, and how she revamped her self-care and diet to learn how to thrive with the disease — eventually giving up the desire to cure it.

“Self-care became my spiritual practice at 31,” she explained, recalling the time she first met the divine feminine in herself. “I met the divine feminine and she said ‘surrender it all. There is a difference between curing and healing. Curing is the physical body — the body you will not have forever. Healing is the spiritual body, and that is what you need to focus on my love, my darling. Learn to accept yourself, my darling.’ You have to love the broken parts of yourself as well. It’s all you, and it’s all teaching you something. It’s all magnificent.”

And acceptance or surrender does not be giving up or putting up with things that you should not from others. It means we never abandon ourselves. It means making our relationship with ourselves — that connection or spiritual assignment — the most important endeavor and commitment we will ever make, said Carr.

“From that place your resilience shines. Nothing can topple you over. As you go for those dreams, take with this mentality you will and enjoy the entire process, not just the accomplishment,” she said. “My challenge I want to offer you is that as you experience this beautiful weekend, and as you get lit up and inspired by all the new tools you want to try, that you remember what you already have …  remember to celebrate something you already have. The more you do that, the more you will give permission to this world to do the same.”

Read Part 2 with Sera Beak: Unleashing Your Soul’s Voice HERE

Read Part 3 with Gabrielle Bernstein: Miracles Now HERE

Read Part 4 with Danielle LaPorte HERE

May Cause Miracles Live Seminar: Week 5

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In week 5 of the book “May Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness,” Gabrielle Bernstein focuses on using the principles of “A Course in Miracles,” when it comes to money and finances. During her live seminar, she explained growing up in an affluent town, but in a home that had a lack mentality.

“When I was 21 – even before I was using these tools – I had a quantum shift in my thinking,” she shared. “I made a commitment I would figure out a way to make money, and ever since that day I have never had a fear of money. There were months when I was waiting for a paycheck to come in, and it would go right back out, but I never had the fear.”

When it comes to raising our net worth, we need to begin by raising our self worth, said Bernstein. “The biggest shift for me was the more I earn, the more I can support myself, and the more I can give,” she told the audience. “It’s the decision-making process internally that needs to change for your net worth to catch up to your self-worth.”

Many of us think we are worth a certain amount of money, such as a yearly salary, but we need to think far beyond that number, she said. We also need to move past the mindset of, ‘How dare I ask for more?” and “I’m not worthy of making money.” This is the voice of our ego, blocking abundance from flowing to us.

In the book she outlines a number of “ego tricks” when it comes to money, and went over a few during the live seminar. One example is the ego has a lack mentality. It looks at the current economy and convinces us we will never get a raise in a recession, or that we will never be able to afford the things we want.

“There is a financial blueprint that has been running your life,” said Bernstein. “This week is about going deep and clarifying the story that is keeping you stuck where you are financially. It’s about seeing where the ego has you in a headlock, and how it has kept you in a blueprint that has been holding you back for decades.”

A New Blueprint
Bernstein ends the introduction to this week in the book by asking readers, “Are you committed to releasing your fears and creating a new financial blueprint?”

Like all of the previous weeks, this one begins by taking the stance of the witness to look at our financial fears head on and identify the story we created around money. The affirmation for the first day is “I am not my lack mentality.”

“These practices get to the core of the problem and we need to heal that root cause,” said Bernstein. “We start by looking at where we are and then we make the conscious shift.”

The second day moves into willingness, with “I am willing to change my inner dialogue about my finances,” as the affirmation to take with us throughout the day. These affirmations help us detach from the fear that is holding us back, Bernstein told the audience.

“When you stare at the debt then you live in the debt. But when you stare at what you do have – ‘I can pay X amount towards the debt,’ or ‘I have a check coming in,’ or ‘I have food on the table,’ that is a different vibe. And gratitude plays a major role in that.

Using both gratitude and forgiveness moves readers through the week, and into a new perception of their financial situation and their financial future. We use gratitude by focusing on what we have, and being grateful for whatever that may be, and forgiveness comes into play by forgiving ourselves for choosing wrongly in the past.

“Your net worth is tied directly to your self-worth, and this work is cleaning up the root and core of the condition,” said Bernstein.

Read our coverage of “May Cause Miracles Live Seminar Week 4.”

Read our coverage of “May Cause Miracles Live Seminar Week 3.

Read our coverage of “May Cause Miracles Live Seminar Week 2.”

Read our coverage of “May Cause Miracles Live Seminar Week 1.”

For more on Bernstein, her books and her work, visit www.gabby.tv.