Law of Attraction: Ask to Serve

By Sherry Winn

We want to manifest our desires. We want to live the life of our dreams. We want to be happy, peaceful and serene – to experience the joy we read about in spiritual books, and to feel love written by the great poets. We want to marry our soul mate, live in harmony, and continue the honeymoon romance for decades. We want to buy new cars, live in mansions, and purchase our boats, ski jets, four wheelers and horses for the weekends.

We want. We want. We want.

The wanting of something is not evil, nor is the requesting of our dream. Yet, there is vital piece missing to the formula we think of as the Law of Attraction. If we are always wanting and asking, what is the Universe hearing?

“A Course in Miracles” states, “To give and receive are one in truth.”

If we receive what we give, what are we giving? What does it sound like to you when somebody says, “I want this. I want that. I want. I want. I want?”

Last week I was with a friend of mine, Sheila, and her two children at the grocery store. Sheila asked if I wanted to go into the store or stay in the minivan. I decided to go into the store. She unbuckled her two children from the backseat of the van and we all went inside to shop for apples, barbecue sauce and bread for dinner.

In the first aisle of the grocery store, the requests began. “Mom, can I have some chips?” “Mom, I’m hungry.” “Mom, I love this candy bar.” “Mom, I promise I’ll be good if you will just buy me my favorite ice cream.” I looked at Sheila apologetically, realizing too late what she had really asked of me was to keep her children from entering the store.

Sheila looked at me, her patience wearing thin from saying, “No” one too many times. “I cannot wait until my children can drive to the store for me.”

The Law of Attraction returns to us what we request.  If most of the time we say “I want,” then what is returned to us?

If we receive what we give, how would that change how we ask? Dr. Wayne Dyer, in his book, “I Can See Clearly Now,” emphasizes again and again during his successes of writing books and giving lectures, he asked not what he would receive, but how he could serve. Dr. Dyer believes the key to manifesting is taking the focus off of what we need and putting it on what we can offer.

“A Course of Miracles” suggests you close your eyes, and think of what you would offer to everyone and hold it as yours.

  • To all people, I offer the serenity of solitude.
  • To all people, I offer the experience of unconditional love.
  • To all people, I offer the awareness of abundance.
  • To all people, I offer the joy of perfect health.
  • To all people, I offer the completeness of peace of mind.

When we have the capacity to give to others, to feel the power of serving and knowing that in our service, we are receiving, we tap into the miracle of the Law of Attraction. When we take the focus off of lack, which is what we are doing when we continually ask, and focus on gifts, we change our asking from scarcity to abundance. We feel abundance. We feel peace. We feel love.

There is another great quote in the “A Course of Miracles,” which states, “No one can give what he has not received.” When you feel as if you have in your possession whatever you desire and you can give that away freely, you are giving and receiving at the same time.

The next time you begin to ask, think first of asking how you can give.

Sherry Winn - The Law of AttractionSherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking. 

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at, through her website at or on Facebook.

Editor’s Advice: Where Do You Need to Give?

Have you ever noticed different themes showing up in your life and repeating themselves? Maybe you decided its time to switch your car insurance, and suddenly you see a car insurance commercial, get an e-mail to check your rates, and overhear someone in line at the supermarket talking about the great deal they got when switching to a new insurance company.

Or maybe you decided to make healthy changes to your diet, and you came across a program on PBS about plant-based living, got an e-mail from Barnes and Noble about a new anti-inflammatory cookbook, and a friend told you she signed up for a vegan cooking class.

Is it a coincidence? Could it be the law of attraction – attracting what you are focused on? Or is the universe sending you a message about the right path for you? Whatever the answer, when things pop up for me repeatedly, I always pay attention. Lately, the theme of giving has been on my radar. The first sign came when Elevated Existence ran an article covering a live teleseminar with Neale Donald Walsch, where he shared three secrets to end struggle in our lives. One of the practices he adopted when struggling years ago was to give, no matter how little he had himself.

“I would give someone money even though I didn’t have much. I would say to myself, ‘what if I had enough and that was so much, I could give it away.’ So I began to give it away,” he said during the teleseminar. “I did the same with relationships and compassion. I found people who wanted the same things I wanted and decided to be the source of it. Suddenly, I found those same things flowing through me.”

The second reminder about giving came when one of our contributing editor’s, Jennifer Garza, wrote an article recently posted on Elevated Existence’s Web site entitled: “Attracting More Prosperity Through Giving.”

“Remind yourself daily that sharing attracts sharing. When your vibration is open and giving, you will attract others who will open and give to you. Give openly and without expectation. If you feel people ‘owe’ you, you will attract more situations where you feel people ‘owe’ you,” she said in the article.

So many of us get caught up in the bills we need to pay, and the lack we feel or see in our lives, whether it’s money, compassion, friendship or love. But when we give these things to someone else, we can’t help but feel them ourselves. Walsch explained how at one point he found himself homeless, and when he had 10 cents, he would give 5 cents away. What if we skipped the expensive latte and gave those few dollars to a charity we believe in, or to a friend who is struggling even more than we are?

Now, as N.J. — where Elevated Existence is headquartered — faces the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, humanity is in need of giving more than ever. The way I see it, there is no downside to giving. It makes you feel good, and it makes the receiver feel good. It raises your vibration so you attract even more – and then you have more to give! And the best place to start is where you feel lack in your own life.

Whether its holding the door open for the person following you into a store, helping a friend through a difficult time by offering a listening ear and a compassionate heart, or donating time or money to a charity or cause you support, this month try to give something away each day – no matter how small. That is my plan, and I hope you will join me!

Blessings and love to you all!

Tammy Mastroberte
Founder, Publisher & Editorial Director
Elevated Existence Magazine