VIDEO: Stop Manifesting What You DON’T Want

We say our affirmations. We do our visualizations. We make our list of intentions or goals. We even keep our gratitude journals.

And then something happens to annoy us, aggravate us or upset us, and we make a crucial mistake when it comes to manifesting.

We complain about it.

We tell our co-workers, friends, family members — anyone who will listen. We dwell on it, focus on it and talk about it.

In doing this, we are sending the message “bring me more of this” to the Universe, and we start to manifest what we DON’T want, instead of what we do.

The same is true when we focus on anything in our life we are unhappy with right now.

In this video, I share how to quickly shift the energy why you find yourself complaining so you cancel out the negativity it brings in.

How to Ignite the Flow of Abundance

Have you been struggling to create abundance in your life? Do you make just enough money to get by, wishing you could have extra to save or live more comfortably?

Author of the book “Train Your Brain: How to Build a Million Dollar Business in Record Time,” Dana Wilde ( recently held a webinar on the topic of abundance, sharing her best tips and tricks to train the brain and allow abundance to flow into our lives.

Many of us are stuck in what Wilde calls “The Cycle of Perpetual Sameness,” where the beliefs stored in our unconscious mind are keeping us from achieving our goals, including abundance. The brain’s reticular activating system continually looks for situations in the world around us to match our beliefs, and if our belief is “money is evil” or “I never have enough money” that is exactly what we will see, she shared.

“If I have the belief ‘I am shy in crowds,’ and then I walk into a crowded room, the outside world will match the inside world, and I will get sweaty palms, feel my heartbeat increase, start to sweat, and then I’ll leave,” she shared. “Then the negative self-talk starts in the conscious mind, which creates emotion and reinforces the negative beliefs.”

Most people only see incremental changes in their lives because they are stuck on the cycle of perpetual sameness – whatever they are thinking and talking about matches up in the outside world. In order to make a change, we need to start thinking and talking differently, Wilde explained.

“We must start thinking and talking different about money and abundance. Once we do this, we start reprogramming the unconscious mind, which the reticular activating system responds to, and then the outside world picture will change,” she said, listing the following steps necessary to make changes:

1.  Become Aware — What are you thinking about and talking about with regards to money?

2.  Deciding to Change — Notice the feelings you are having and make a decision that you want to make a change.

3.  Instilling New Programming — Intentionally think different thoughts and have different conversations

4.  Feeling the Positive Emotion — Notice shifts you have emotionally when starting to think about money differently.

“When you start to make these shifts in your mind around how you feel about money, and you start to change the scripts you have been saying about money, it feels like you turn on a faucet, and it can really feel like magic because the reticular activating system is now noticing different opportunities that were not on your radar prior to the mindshift,” she shared.

Understanding Abundance
During the webinar, Wilde highlighted some common, false beliefs many of us have, whether its from our parents, our culture or society, which are blocking us from abundance. These include:

Work hard and you will make money.
Get an education and you will make money.
You have to do illegal or immoral things to make money.
You can’t be spiritual and make money.
We are poor, but we are happy.
Money is limited.
I don’t care about money.
It’s selfish to want a lot of money.
If I get rich people will want a lot of things from me.
If I get rich, I’ll forget where I came from.

“Remember, money comes to you based on how you think and how you feel about it, and it starts with awareness,” Wilde said. “Start paying attention to how you are feeling and thinking about money, and sometimes it’s easier to pay attention to feelings rather than thoughts.”

This is a necessary step to take ourselves off automatic pilot when it comes to how we think and feel about money. An example would be watching to the television and hearing an ad say “Do you have credit card debt?” and getting a negative sense of dream or doom, or a pit in your stomach. That negative feeling is a sign. Why would we feel that way? What could we say to ourselves to soothe this feeling?

Wilde recommends uncovering the belief or thought causing the negative emotion and turning it around. For example, instead of “I feel I’ll never get out of debt,” one could say “I’m not happy with where I’m at now, but I have faith that I it will get better. I’m glad I’m aware of it now, and I want to let go of this negative feeling,” or “I like that change is coming to me now. I might now be right were I want to be this second but I’m on the move. I’m headed in the right direction.”

Another example she shared is sitting with friends who begin badmouthing a person who is considered rich. Maybe we become aware that we want to join in, and have a feeling of righteousness that poor people are good and rich people are bad. Once we are aware of this, we can ask ourselves, “Why am I feeling this way? Do I really believe this? Is this the message I want to match.”

“If you did nothing else — just this — you would see a drastic change in your abundance and money,” said Wilde. “To feel the hopefulness, goodness and faith, and feeling yourself open to money instead of blocking it off will produce drastic and dramatic shifts in your financial abundance.”

Exercises in Abundance
As part of the webinar, Wilde shared a number of simple exercises we can start practicing to start changing our thoughts and feelings around abundance in order to allow it to flow.

1. See the Abundance — Part of the reason people shut themselves off  to abundance is a scarcity mentality, which is often seen in our culture. It’s the idea that there is not enough to go around, or we have to fight for the crumbs that are out there. This is an easy exercise to do while washing the dishes, making the bed, or any other time, she said.

“Start to think about the stuff in your house right now,  and see the abundance that is already all around you,” she explained. “Most of us are overflowing with abundance. I know myself, I am shocked by the amount of stuff I have in the house. In our kitchen, we have so many drinking glasses and bowls, and we are two people here. Start to think about the amount of food we have in the house. We don’t even generally bake or eat sweets in our house, but just the variety of sugars, honey, agave, molasses, powdered sugar, white sugar, brown sugar, stevia, brown sugar syrup, or the shoes we have, or the items for cleaning the house. When I think about the books I have in my house, I have enough that I could read a book every day for 10 years.”

2. I CAN Afford That — Often we have a knee-jerk reaction when wanting to buy something. We begin to make all the excuses about our ability to afford it, such as “I can’t afford it,” or “I wish I could afford it.” Start to become aware of the dialogue when making a decision not to buy something and start changing it around.

For example, “I really like that thing, and I’m going to get that someday, but now the timing is not right,” or that is really neat, and I like it, but I think they will probably put that on sale, so I would rather wait and take a look at it down the road,” or “I really like that book, and I think its good, but I’ll pick it up at a different time because I have so many books to read right now.”

It’s about giving ourselves different reasons for not buying something, and making ourselves feel better about it. When we catch ourselves saying or thinking “I can’t afford this,” turn it around to, “The truth is I can afford this. If I really wanted it, I could make it happen. I do want this, and it is going to come into my world, just not today, but I look forward to this coming in.”

3. Let it Flow — Similar to the concept of tithing, which is giving a percentage of what comes into our lives to support a church or organization, we can do this in small ways that can give us the feeling of power and abundance. For example, in a restaurant leaving an extra $5 tip.

“When you do this, you are letting it flow, and you start to get the feeling, ‘I’m rich, and I can afford to give more,’” Wilde noted.

4. Money as Appreciation — Begin to give money a different definition and start to think of it as a symbol of appreciation. We can give an extra tip to a waitress because we appreciate her, and we pay our electric bill because we appreciate having electricity.

“Money is a form of appreciation, and I am appreciating where my money is going, and I’m appreciating that I’m able to give it,” said Wilde. “Whenever I give a tip or pay for something I say, ‘I love being rich. I love that I’m able to give money this way.’”

6. Have it NOW — When we make a purchase, what are we really buying? Why do we buy things or want to buy things? We are really buying the image of who we want to be, or the lifestyle we want, said Wilde. So why not have that feeling now?

“Rather than longing for and thinking about your life in the future, how can you have the feeling of that now. Let’s say you want to live around trees and nature but you are in the city. What can you do to have those feelings now? Can you put plants on your porch, or plants in a room and sit there for a few minutes a day? Or find a park or be out in nature a couple times a day? How can you have it now?”

If someone wants to go to Paris, he or she can get a poster of Paris and put it on the wall to study the streets and avenues, or buy a book on how to speak French. If someone wants a bigger house, they can redo sections to make them seem bigger, or find pictures for the wall to make it seem like they are already there.

“Your brain stores beliefs about money, and your reticular activating system spends all day, every day, matching up those beliefs,” Wilde said. “You change it by starting to become aware of the thoughts and feelings you have around money and abundance, and start talking and thinking differently. Implement these exercises and you will start to feel abundance coming into your life, and the reticular activating system will start matching it up.”

For more information on Dana Wilde, visit

Law of Attraction: The Difference Between Waiting and Expecting

By Sherry Winn

Two weeks ago a client asked me the difference between waiting and expecting. The disparity is the gap between fear and faith. Waiting represents wishing and indicates you don’t believe your request is going to happen. Expecting is acting as if you are receiving what you desire.

When you wait you are removed from action. When you expect you take action.

Imagine for a moment you want a particular job, but you don’t believe you can have it. You wait for the job to manifest but fail to take action toward getting the job. Why don’t you take the necessary actions? What belief holds you to waiting rather than acting?

A friend of mine, Maggie, decided she wanted to own her own salsa company. She knew from her experience of winning a salsa-cooking contest that her salsa was amazing. Maggie also knew if she could get her salsa in front of people they would buy it. The challenge was getting her salsa in grocery stores. Through persistence Maggie eventually convinced some of the local grocery store managers to purchase small amounts of her salsa for their stores.

This was not enough for Maggie. She wanted to sell her salsa in larger quantities. Maggie asked other food company owners how they got their product into the chain stores, and they told her it was next to impossible, and it took years of hard work.

Maggie didn’t accept their answers. She expected her dream to come true. She wrote down a list of 90 potential grocery stores and called all of them. At the end of every call, Maggie received the same answer: “No.” She looked at the list, thought about it, and started calling every store manager again. One manager asked if she could meet the next day at 8:00 a.m. Without hesitation, Maggie said she would be there. She jumped in her car and drove all night to make it to the meeting the next morning where she promptly convinced the store manager to purchase her salsa.

Maggie expected her dream to come true. She persisted with actions until her dream become a reality. The key is she did the hard work before she started making salsa. What was the hard work? Maggie worked on her faith.

So many people believe the work is done when they ask. This is the preliminary work. It is the beginning of the race. When you ask, you are at the starting line. If you remain at the starting line, you are waiting for something amazing to happen to you. What happens is you never get to the finish line, because you never ran the race.

How do you discover the faith Maggie possessed?

1.  Take responsibility for what you see in life. Interpret life as a positive experience.

2.  Choose the feelings you want to experience. Choose to feel good even when the events happening around you don’t seem to line up with what you desire.

3.  Align yourself with positive people who inspire and believe in you.

4.  Understand what you think becomes what you perceive and what you perceive is what you live.

5.  Seek books that teach abundance and worthiness.

6.  Practice the art of forgiveness. Your power is in letting go of the past and living in the present.

7.  Release self-judgment. Judgment prevents you from the vision of achievement.

8.  Tell yourself every day you are a creator and you choose to create abundance.

9.  Look for “facts,” which verify you are moving toward your desires.

10.  Affirm you were born as worthy. How could you not be worthy when you came from Source Energy who only knows worthiness?

People who wait, see signs they can’t get what they want and stop trying. People who expect their dreams to manifest move forward toward their goals. Are you going to stop at the starting line or do you have the Maggie mentality to ask and then receive by taking the necessary steps toward the finish line?

Sherry Winn - The Law of AttractionCoach Sherry Winn is an in-demand motivational speaker, a leading success coach and seminar trainer, a two-time Olympian, a national championship basketball coach, and an Amazon best-seller.

Coach Winn is the originator of the WIN Philosophy ™ and the WINNER Principles ™, and is known for her passion and belief system that ALL things are possible. You can access Sherry for coaching, training, or speaking appearances at

The Art of Manifestation

By Sherry Winn

Many people ask me about how to manifest their desires. They want a simple formula. Something they can do a single time and get instantaneous results. Imagine doing something just one time and being an expert. Wouldn’t that be awesome?

In the 23 years I was a collegiate basketball coach, we never practiced one time and then thought we were prepared to play a game. We created what we wanted by continually practicing, revising and testing our skills. It was an ongoing process to become a good team.

Every year I coached, I learned something new that enhanced my ability. I became more effective and efficient because I had enhanced my skills through repetition and research.

Manifesting your dreams is a process. It requires awareness and the desire to improve who you are.

You might have been practicing manifesting for years without awareness because you allowed your thoughts to think you rather than being in control of your thoughts. Maybe you created unwanted circumstances or people in your life by putting all your energy into what you did not want. Maybe you manifested dis-ease because you put too much energy into guilt or shame. Maybe you formed a life of continual challenges because you believed there was no gain without pain.

Now that you are aware energy goes where attention flows, you can begin to practice where you put your attention. This requires effort. Thoughts flow through us quickly and many times these are thoughts we have practiced thinking, which means we have to develop a new habit of thinking different thoughts.

For example, if you believed there was no gain without pain, and you told yourself that message 30 times a day for 5 years, you would have lodged that thought pattern into your brain 54,650 times. In order to change the neural networks you have created through repetition, you replace your no gain, no pain thought with another thought. Instead of believing gain is associated with pain, you shift your belief system to the idea that goals are attained through sustained attention and right action. Pain does not need to be part of the process.

How do you practice manifesting?

1.  Take the time to become aware of your thoughts. Write down your 10 biggest beliefs and then list how those beliefs are serving you. If your beliefs are not serving you, it is time to change them.

2.  Read personal development books that focus on the positive.

3.  Use your car as a library. When you get in your car, commit to listening to 10-15 minutes of an audio book that will help you grow.

4.  Meditate daily. This is huge. Meditation opens your awareness and it allows you to practice letting go of unwanted thoughts.

5.  Assign one notebook to your goals. Fold the page in half at the midline. Every day write down five goals written in terms of affirmations (as if the goal has already occurred) on one half of the page. On the other half of the page, write down what beliefs are preventing you from achieving your goals.

6.  Note the beliefs you have that are preventing you from achieving your goals. Work on changing those beliefs.

7.  Repeat your affirmations throughout the day. See the affirmations in your head. Act as if you are already living your dreams.

By practicing to manifest your dreams, you not only receive what you want, you enhance who you are. This is the true practice of manifestation — the process of becoming wiser, more joyful, happier, more loving and kind. Once you become who you want to be, you attract more of what you want.

Sherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking. 

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at, through her website at or on Facebook.

Law of Attraction: Ask to Serve

By Sherry Winn

We want to manifest our desires. We want to live the life of our dreams. We want to be happy, peaceful and serene – to experience the joy we read about in spiritual books, and to feel love written by the great poets. We want to marry our soul mate, live in harmony, and continue the honeymoon romance for decades. We want to buy new cars, live in mansions, and purchase our boats, ski jets, four wheelers and horses for the weekends.

We want. We want. We want.

The wanting of something is not evil, nor is the requesting of our dream. Yet, there is vital piece missing to the formula we think of as the Law of Attraction. If we are always wanting and asking, what is the Universe hearing?

“A Course in Miracles” states, “To give and receive are one in truth.”

If we receive what we give, what are we giving? What does it sound like to you when somebody says, “I want this. I want that. I want. I want. I want?”

Last week I was with a friend of mine, Sheila, and her two children at the grocery store. Sheila asked if I wanted to go into the store or stay in the minivan. I decided to go into the store. She unbuckled her two children from the backseat of the van and we all went inside to shop for apples, barbecue sauce and bread for dinner.

In the first aisle of the grocery store, the requests began. “Mom, can I have some chips?” “Mom, I’m hungry.” “Mom, I love this candy bar.” “Mom, I promise I’ll be good if you will just buy me my favorite ice cream.” I looked at Sheila apologetically, realizing too late what she had really asked of me was to keep her children from entering the store.

Sheila looked at me, her patience wearing thin from saying, “No” one too many times. “I cannot wait until my children can drive to the store for me.”

The Law of Attraction returns to us what we request.  If most of the time we say “I want,” then what is returned to us?

If we receive what we give, how would that change how we ask? Dr. Wayne Dyer, in his book, “I Can See Clearly Now,” emphasizes again and again during his successes of writing books and giving lectures, he asked not what he would receive, but how he could serve. Dr. Dyer believes the key to manifesting is taking the focus off of what we need and putting it on what we can offer.

“A Course of Miracles” suggests you close your eyes, and think of what you would offer to everyone and hold it as yours.

  • To all people, I offer the serenity of solitude.
  • To all people, I offer the experience of unconditional love.
  • To all people, I offer the awareness of abundance.
  • To all people, I offer the joy of perfect health.
  • To all people, I offer the completeness of peace of mind.

When we have the capacity to give to others, to feel the power of serving and knowing that in our service, we are receiving, we tap into the miracle of the Law of Attraction. When we take the focus off of lack, which is what we are doing when we continually ask, and focus on gifts, we change our asking from scarcity to abundance. We feel abundance. We feel peace. We feel love.

There is another great quote in the “A Course of Miracles,” which states, “No one can give what he has not received.” When you feel as if you have in your possession whatever you desire and you can give that away freely, you are giving and receiving at the same time.

The next time you begin to ask, think first of asking how you can give.

Sherry Winn - The Law of AttractionSherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking. 

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at, through her website at or on Facebook.

“The Power of Awareness,” by Neville Goddard Audiobook

Neville Goddard, a new thought leader and lecturer from the 1950s through the early 1970s, wrote the book “The Power of Awareness,” in 1952, based on what he called “The Law,” which today is referred to as the law of attraction, or what he called a technique of creating one’s physical reality through imagining.

“Imagining creates reality,” says Goddard. Now, the unabridged audio edition of the book is available.

Topics covered include I Am, Consciousness, Power of Assumption, Desire, The Effortless Way, All Things Are Possible, Free Will, Persistence, Failure, Faith, Destiny and Reverence.

It is available for purchase from Barnes and Noble or from the iTunes store.