Paul Scheele: Optimizing the Brain for Successful Relationships

What if you could reprogram your mind to be happy no matter what, to improve your self-esteem and to become magnetic to people around you so all your relationships could improve?

Paul Scheele, co-founder of Learning Strategies Corp., combined his background in biology, human development, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), accelerate learning and more, to help other achieve the results they want in relationships, work, money and health, easier and faster then through traditional methods. He is an expert on learning how to tap the other 90% of the mind (the subconscious) and his work has been used by several well-know, peak performance experts such as Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Ken Blanchard and Brian Tracy.

Speaking on the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit, Scheele explained how we can reprogram our brain to improve relationships in both our business and personal life, rather than running on the old programs set years ago.

“What we can do is install more positive, more functional strategies within us that allow us to get the results we truly desire,” Scheele said on the call, explaining most of us are operating on the dysfunctional programs given to us by our family, society, religion, etc. “If [the mind] is running on autopilot, the autopilot has been trained historically in an unquestioning way. We have accepted a lot of programming of our culture, which contains a lot of blind spots.”


Scheele explained how the different parts of the brain operate, including the part known as the reptilian, which gets activated when we are afraid for our safety, and around that, the mammalian or limbic system, devoted to emotional safety. There is also the neocortex, devoted to judging and making sure our reality stays in tact, he explained.

“The exciting thing being discovered by researchers today – the next evolutionary step – is called the prefrontal cortex or frontal orbital cortex, and this is where we are actually living into the emerging future,” he said on the call. “If we can learn to make values-based decisions, rather then decisions based on fear, worry and doubt, then we are transcending and moving into what our full potential is — what is really trying to emerge.”

Using NLP, Holosync technology and his expertise in preconscious processing and accelerated learning, Scheele developed Paralminial technology – an idea that came to him in 1976 before the technology was available to carry out his ideas.

“In 1981, my business partner and I had a cassette recorder with stereo microphones, and one of us what speaking in one channel and the other in another channel. One would do a guided visualization, and in the other ear the person was guiding the listener in a step-by-step process of change,” Scheele said.

A similar technique is used today, but with the sophisticated digital recording available, the Paraliminal technology is even better. “It uses neuro-linguistic programming and language, speaking to both sides of your brain simultaneously to access that vast non-conscious mind and put you in touch with the resources to accomplish what you want,” Scheele explained. “These go right into contact with those resources already within you.”

For the Living an Elevated Existence Summit, Scheele put together a package of four paraliminals – Instantaneous Personal Magnetism, Self-Esteem Super Charger, Positive Relationships and Happy for No Reason – along with two videos, including “Love and Long Life,” with bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. John Gray. Summit listeners can purchase the package for 60 percent off the retail price.

Recipe for Successful Relationships
When looking at the word ‘relationship,’ the key part of is ‘relating,’ said Scheele, who shared his four core abilities for relating. These are:

1. Kindness, Compassion and Appreciation – “Very often we are raised with very shame-based ways of communicating. ‘What is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right? I hear you, but you’re wrong.’ How do we tap in to see the awakened self in another,” he said, explaining the Indian tradition of placing our hands on our chest and saying Namaste is about the divinity in us seeing the divinity in another. “So this idea of developing kindness, compassion and appreciation for another is so huge.”

2. Accepting Personal Responsibility – We need to move from being dependent in relationships to interdependence, said Scheele. We are the creator of our own happiness and need to take responsibility for that rather than relying on another person.

“A real, healthy relationship is one which is an interdependent partnership. So we are eliminating helplessness, and we are really realizing our true power as individuals,” he said. “We feel that it’s better to be with each other. We are stronger. We have more fun, and it’s companionship. But if you don’t’ fulfill your 50 percent of the relationship, I’m not 50 percent lost. We each come into the relationship at 100 percent.”

3. Choose Honest Self-Reflection and Truthfulness – Choosing honest self reflection and truthfulness requires a certain amount of vulnerability, and in her studies, bestselling author Brene Brown found the one thing that correlates with overcoming shame is vulnerability, Scheele shared. What is requires is to reflect and go for the truth with ourselves and in our relationships.

When we have done something we feel bad about, often we choose not to tell our partner because we don’t want to hurt them. However, we are then living a lie, which takes a lot of energy, he noted. Instead we can speak from a place of truth.

We can say, “I really want to share with you something that I don’t’ feel good about. I feel sorry that I did it, and I would like to make it right with you, and I understand that if you can’t tolerate the thought that I’ve done this and you need to leave the relationship, then that is my responsibility, and I get it. You need to take care of yourself but here it is,” said Scheele.

4. Honor the Space Between Us as Unique – “I have me and you have you, and when we come together, there is a space between us that is ‘we’ or ‘us,’ and there is a mutual benefit of being here intentionally,” he explained. “It’s not important what emerges between our ears, it’s what is between our noses, and that is what is called presencing. It’s being present and sensing what is emerging that is more valuable then me living my life alone and you living your life alone.”

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Living From the Divine Self

By Dr. William Constantine

As winter sheds its grip and spring ushers in, many of us are looking forward to warmer weather. Spring has become synonymous with cleaning – getting rid of stuff we no longer use, preparing the gardens, tidying up the external appearance of the house and yards, etc. However, very few make an effort to clean out their subconscious mind.

Did you know over 90 percent of what we do in a waking state is controlled by what we hold within the subconscious mind? So, for the vast majority of the time, we are literally on autopilot. Doesn’t it make sense that we would want to perform a thorough cleaning on our subconscious too?

Perception is a real problem in the world today because it has become clouded by the pursuits of the false self or ego, and we have become confused about our true nature. It’s caused everything from wars to divorce; murder to heroic deeds; compassion to hatred; illness, and so on. However, ones perception is merely a part of their human conditioning. In reality, perceptions are based on the beliefs we hold within our subconscious mind.

These beliefs are passed down and picked up along the road of life, and are adopted as our own. We essentially have become collectors of beliefs since we were born. As a newborn child, the slate is clean. We literally become a sponge soaking in all the beliefs, false ideals and misconceived notions of the human experience and potential because when it’s coming from a trusted source – a parent or authority figure – we trust it to be true.

Shifting Perception
The conscious and subconscious mind are powerful tools that when we learn how to work with them, can help us create a lifestyle we desire to live. Yet, when we don’t know how to use them properly, we often create the exact thing we don’t wish to experience.

The solution to many of the problems facing the world today, if not all of them, is a shift in perception. If we shift our perceptions we shift the way we react and respond to situations and experiences – thus, giving us a totally different result. In order to shift our perceptions we must rattle the cage of the subconscious mind and see what beliefs we have stored within that no longer serve the highest good and intention of our life.

In his book, “It’s Your Time,” author Joel Osteen calls these false perceptions “dead end neighborhoods,” and they are indeed just that. If you know anyone who has moved into one of these neighborhoods you will probably hear them complain about how slummy their life is and how they can’t seem to get out or “catch a break.”

This perception of lack is what faces many today because they are too busy focusing on what they “don’t have” rather than what they are abundant in. A mere shift in perception will start the ball rolling into the life of freedom and abundance that God wants all of us to live.

There are really two main categories of perceptions from which all others derive – fear and love. The more we find ourselves fearing, the more we are living in the world of the false self. But when we find ourselves in a place of love, we realize we are really living and are in the world of our divine self or God self. In that self, all things are possible.

Here are five tips to shift into the divine self:

  • Think of the areas of your life you want to improve. Ask yourself, “What beliefs do I have regarding this area of my life?” List them out, and then ask, “Is this in alignment with the desired result?” If the answer is no, than you have identified a limiting belief.  Then you have two options: Release it or change it to align with your ultimate vision.
  • Forgive and release. Stop holding on to “negative” things in the past. If you can forgive yourself, forgiving others will be easy.
  • Create an audio CD filled with new thoughts and beliefs – positive affirmations. Make a copy for you to have at work, in the car, and one at home. Listen to this, instead of your favorite morning talk show, where you run the risk of being inundated with news or negativity.
  • Value what you have in your life. Look to the abundance you already have now, like a car, a house, a job, groceries, kids, etc.
  • Implement my belief formula to create beliefs in your subconscious that are in alignment with where you want to be: Thought + Repetition + A Month = New Belief.

With these tools as an active part of your daily routine, your life will run smoother and you will be in a vastly different place in no time.

william_cWilliam Constantine is a lifestyle expert, global leader for non-profit work and has a Doctorate in Metaphysical Sciences. Used as a source on Nancy Grace, Fox Business News, ABC, NBC, and other media outlets, Constantine is an expert on how to break free from fear- based realities and conditional thinking as it relates to life and career choices. For more inforamtin, visit his Web site, follow him on Twitter: @wmconstantine, or visit his Facebook Page.