Paul Scheele: Optimizing the Brain for Successful Relationships

What if you could reprogram your mind to be happy no matter what, to improve your self-esteem and to become magnetic to people around you so all your relationships could improve?

Paul Scheele, co-founder of Learning Strategies Corp., combined his background in biology, human development, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), accelerate learning and more, to help other achieve the results they want in relationships, work, money and health, easier and faster then through traditional methods. He is an expert on learning how to tap the other 90% of the mind (the subconscious) and his work has been used by several well-know, peak performance experts such as Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Ken Blanchard and Brian Tracy.

Speaking on the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit, Scheele explained how we can reprogram our brain to improve relationships in both our business and personal life, rather than running on the old programs set years ago.

“What we can do is install more positive, more functional strategies within us that allow us to get the results we truly desire,” Scheele said on the call, explaining most of us are operating on the dysfunctional programs given to us by our family, society, religion, etc. “If [the mind] is running on autopilot, the autopilot has been trained historically in an unquestioning way. We have accepted a lot of programming of our culture, which contains a lot of blind spots.”


Scheele explained how the different parts of the brain operate, including the part known as the reptilian, which gets activated when we are afraid for our safety, and around that, the mammalian or limbic system, devoted to emotional safety. There is also the neocortex, devoted to judging and making sure our reality stays in tact, he explained.

“The exciting thing being discovered by researchers today – the next evolutionary step – is called the prefrontal cortex or frontal orbital cortex, and this is where we are actually living into the emerging future,” he said on the call. “If we can learn to make values-based decisions, rather then decisions based on fear, worry and doubt, then we are transcending and moving into what our full potential is — what is really trying to emerge.”

Using NLP, Holosync technology and his expertise in preconscious processing and accelerated learning, Scheele developed Paralminial technology – an idea that came to him in 1976 before the technology was available to carry out his ideas.

“In 1981, my business partner and I had a cassette recorder with stereo microphones, and one of us what speaking in one channel and the other in another channel. One would do a guided visualization, and in the other ear the person was guiding the listener in a step-by-step process of change,” Scheele said.

A similar technique is used today, but with the sophisticated digital recording available, the Paraliminal technology is even better. “It uses neuro-linguistic programming and language, speaking to both sides of your brain simultaneously to access that vast non-conscious mind and put you in touch with the resources to accomplish what you want,” Scheele explained. “These go right into contact with those resources already within you.”

For the Living an Elevated Existence Summit, Scheele put together a package of four paraliminals – Instantaneous Personal Magnetism, Self-Esteem Super Charger, Positive Relationships and Happy for No Reason – along with two videos, including “Love and Long Life,” with bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. John Gray. Summit listeners can purchase the package for 60 percent off the retail price.

Recipe for Successful Relationships
When looking at the word ‘relationship,’ the key part of is ‘relating,’ said Scheele, who shared his four core abilities for relating. These are:

1. Kindness, Compassion and Appreciation – “Very often we are raised with very shame-based ways of communicating. ‘What is wrong with you? Can’t you do anything right? I hear you, but you’re wrong.’ How do we tap in to see the awakened self in another,” he said, explaining the Indian tradition of placing our hands on our chest and saying Namaste is about the divinity in us seeing the divinity in another. “So this idea of developing kindness, compassion and appreciation for another is so huge.”

2. Accepting Personal Responsibility – We need to move from being dependent in relationships to interdependence, said Scheele. We are the creator of our own happiness and need to take responsibility for that rather than relying on another person.

“A real, healthy relationship is one which is an interdependent partnership. So we are eliminating helplessness, and we are really realizing our true power as individuals,” he said. “We feel that it’s better to be with each other. We are stronger. We have more fun, and it’s companionship. But if you don’t’ fulfill your 50 percent of the relationship, I’m not 50 percent lost. We each come into the relationship at 100 percent.”

3. Choose Honest Self-Reflection and Truthfulness – Choosing honest self reflection and truthfulness requires a certain amount of vulnerability, and in her studies, bestselling author Brene Brown found the one thing that correlates with overcoming shame is vulnerability, Scheele shared. What is requires is to reflect and go for the truth with ourselves and in our relationships.

When we have done something we feel bad about, often we choose not to tell our partner because we don’t want to hurt them. However, we are then living a lie, which takes a lot of energy, he noted. Instead we can speak from a place of truth.

We can say, “I really want to share with you something that I don’t’ feel good about. I feel sorry that I did it, and I would like to make it right with you, and I understand that if you can’t tolerate the thought that I’ve done this and you need to leave the relationship, then that is my responsibility, and I get it. You need to take care of yourself but here it is,” said Scheele.

4. Honor the Space Between Us as Unique – “I have me and you have you, and when we come together, there is a space between us that is ‘we’ or ‘us,’ and there is a mutual benefit of being here intentionally,” he explained. “It’s not important what emerges between our ears, it’s what is between our noses, and that is what is called presencing. It’s being present and sensing what is emerging that is more valuable then me living my life alone and you living your life alone.”

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Dr. Darren Weissman: Uncovering the Emotional Root of Symptoms, Stress & Disease in Order to Heal

At the root of every symptom, stress and disease is a subconscious emotional pattern of reaction, according to Dr. Darren Weissman, best-selling author of “The Power of Infinite Love & Gratitude,” and “Awakening to the Secret Code of Your Mind.”

Dr. Weissman joined Elevated Existence founder, Tammy Mastroberte, as part of the “Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Spirit Summit,” to talk about uncovering the emotional root of stress, symptoms and disease in order to heal.

He explained the conscious mind is what we perceive with our senses, and only 2 percent to 10 percent of our mind is conscious. The remainder, and what is running the show for many aspects of our life, including physical symptoms in the body, is the subconscious mind. It actually controls all of our bodily functions from heart rate and blood pressure to our immunity, hormone balance, sugar metabolism and more. It is also where emotions, memories and beliefs are stored that have not been processed or integrated.

“Symptoms and stress and the health of our body is really relative to a fish and it’s relationship to water. We are so submerged in our emotional reality, and we don’t even realize that it’s influencing how I am able to digest food, how I’m able to recognize pollen in spring or ragweed in autumn. How my body is able to amp up its immune system under different types of bacteria or viral stresses,” said Dr. Weissman.

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He continued: “Our body is designed to heal, regenerate and be whole. However, there is this whole other world called the subconscious that stores every experience we’ve ever had, whether we know it or not, and the thing about the subconscious is it’s below our awareness so we don’t’ even know it’s in there. But when those emotions or memories get triggered they change us immediately and instantly, and the change is palpable. You can feel it in your body. It’s painful, and it’s stressful.”

These subconscious emotional patterns of reaction are often something from childhood still operating on us today, and they are literally causing the symptoms we are feeling or the diseases we are being diagnosed with.

“The subconscious mind is the driver. In our subconscious mind, there are memories from when we were younger or even in our mother’s womb, still living in us today,” Dr. Weissman said during the call. “Our emotions come to life, and we replay them over and over and over again. So all the sudden somebody says something that is remotely similar to when I was three, and i didn’t even know that it was in me. All the sudden I feel tenseness in my chest, and I’m having a hard time breathing. If it happens long enough, I go to my doctor, and I’m diagnosed with asthma or some type of respiratory challenge, or it creates in another person an acid reflux or a stiffness in the neck.”

Dr. Weissman developed the LifeLine Technique to help people immediately get into the root emotions and memories and create a shift. It raises the energy and consciousness so people can make quick and lasting changes in their body – which is essentially designed to heal itself.

“When you get to the core emotion and memory, and with LifeLine Technique we can process this energy in the subconscious mind, changes occur immediately, and people can learn this as a tool to use on themselves,” he noted. “Everything, including stubbing your toe in the middle of the night, has a subconscious root.”

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Real Life Examples
Dr. Weissman shared a couple examples of clients he worked with in the past, including a woman who was beginning a ski season and tore her ACL in her knee. The MRI showed a complete rupture. Dr. Weissman worked with her using LifeLine sessions, and they uncovered emotions stemming from the discovery her husband had been having an affair.

“There was underlying anger, resentment and depression, and that is always associated with knees and shoulders and eyes because in Chinese medicine has to do with the wood element,” she said. “There is an interconnection to parts of the body and emotions and what was amazing is after we worked together to clear them, she went back and had an MRI and the ACL had reattached itself.”

Another example he shared was a 9-year-old boy who suffered from migraines. The family attempted everything to help him, from over-the-counter medication to heavy medication from a neurologist, and after the second LifeLine session with Dr. Weissman, his migraines were gone.

“After that, the parents invested in the husband learning the LifeLine Technique and he is getting certified next weekend,” said Dr. Weissman.

Pain in our body and stress in our life are actually gifts and messengers, and they are communicating to us areas in our subconscious that need to be healed with what Dr. Weissman calls “infinite love and gratitude.”

“People look at symptoms and taking a pill for it and to make it go away,” he explained in the call. “Inside that pain, fear and stress, there is a gem. It looks like coal because of the way we are looking at it, but there is a diamond in it. The first step in translation is to say, ‘Wait a minute, this is a conversation,’ and  follow strategic methodical steps that anyone can learn to shift the patterns of the subconscious mind.”

During the call, Dr. Weissman also walked listeners through his newest technique called the “See Feel Hear Challenge,” which is the basis of his newest book “The Heart of the Matter: A Simple Guide to Discovering Gifts in Strange Wrapping Paper.”

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Getting in Tune with Our Subconscious Mind

By Sherry Winn

The laws of the mind never have a time-out. We want to believe we think in positive terms, knowing what we think about most of the time is attracted into our lives. Yet, often in a day, we mentally say things like, “My legs hurt,” “My back aches,” or “I’m tired.” Every time we speak or think words, we are attracting these things to us.

How many times have you joined a conversation that included somebody complaining about something? Searching for sympathy, how many times have your shared stories of your injuries, pains or heartaches with friends only to discover your friends attempting to one-up you with their woes? How many times have you watched a news program or read an article thinking how horrible or awful the story was only to share it with others several times throughout the day?

You were probably unaware you were invoking the law of attraction throughout the day as you repeated these negative words and thoughts. This law of the mind does not only work when you are paying attention to it – It works 24 hours a day, every day of the week.

The undesired creation of events from our lack of awareness of our harmful thoughts and words is one of the reasons why people believe the law of attraction does not work. We fail to truthfully observe what we are thinking and saying. We are naïve to the fact that we have a habitual way of living, which encompasses the sharing of our pains, heartaches and misgivings with others as a part of the normalcy of our day.

Consistency is Key
We believe if we concentrate for a few minutes a day on affirmations, then we are doing what is necessary to make a shift. While this is a great start to creating change, we need to realize whatever we are repeating throughout the day is a true indication of what we are feeling. What we consistently feel is what we will attract into our lives.

If we begin the day with a short meditation or by embracing what is on our vision boards, we are momentarily attracting our dreams. However, if we spend the rest of the day after our morning sessions complaining, whining, doubting, judging or comparing, then most of our day is spent failing to be aligned with our desires.

The key is to be aware of our habits, actions, words and thoughts. We can’t behave as if a 10-minute session of positivity in the morning will counteract all the other damaging moments of the day.

The Subconscious Mind is the Creator
We spend most of our life creating things unconsciously and then believe we have suffered from bad luck or injustice. For example, when people suffer from an illness, they will stand steadfast in their beliefs that they would have never created such a horrible thing intentionally. Of course, they don’t want to be ill and they might not have ever said, “I want this disease,” but did they say other things that could have created dis-ease in their bodies?

Here are some things they might have been subconsciously saying which created a result they didn’t desire:

  • I am not good enough.
  • Nobody will ever love me.
  • I can’t forgive myself for what I did to my son, daughter, friend, etc.
  • I deserve to be punished.
  • I will never let anybody get close to me again because I can’t trust others.
  • I can’t trust myself.
  • I’ll never forgive that person for what she did to me. She doesn’t deserve forgiveness.

These messages are creating an unwanted result. These individuals are not attracting love, compassion, goodness, joy, peace, or kindness to themselves. They are thinking and therefore receiving the opposite of all they desire.

Remember it is our subconscious processes that decide what is going to happen in our outer experiences. By questioning ourselves, really paying attention, and focusing on our life patterns and the habitual things we do daily, we can begin to hear our unconscious minds. Then, when we are honest with ourselves, we can begin to make huge shifts.

Sherry Winn - The Law of AttractionSherry Winn is an author, EFT Practitioner, Certified Law of Attraction and Master Life Coach and a motivational speaker, whose topics include “Making the Impossible Possible,” “Loving Challenges,” and “Catching Your Dreams.” As a former elite athlete competing at the Olympic Games in 1984 and 1988 in the sport of team handball and head collegiate coach for 23 years, she possesses a deep passion for helping others become motivated to reach their highest levels of success.

Winn overcame her fears and limitations when she contracted chronic pain at the age of 33 and was told by 17 different medical professionals there was no answer. Through books, meditation, mentors and Webinars, she discovered the power of healing through positive thinking. 

To receive a free 50-minute Law of Attraction coaching session, or more information about Winn, she can be contacted by email at, through her website at or on Facebook.