Arielle Ford: Attract Your Soulmate

By Jennifer McCartney

Have you ever wondered what it takes to find the love of your life? Is it your dream to find a life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you? Arielle Ford, author of the bestselling book “The Soulmate Secret” has been called, “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love,” and she shared her secrets to manifesting the love of your life — secrets she used to manifest her own soulmate at age 44, and has taught to countless people worldwide, as part of the “Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit Season 2,” including:

  • How to become a magnet for love
  • Techniques you can use to take control of your romantic destiny
  • Key steps to manifesting your soulmate
  • How to start preparing for your soulmate right now (it will help you attract him or her)

“I believe a soulmate is first and foremost somebody you can completely be yourself with,” Ford shared. “Somebody with who you share unconditional love, and someone who, when you look into their eyes, you feel like you’re home.”

Additionally, over the course of our lifetimes we have many soulmates — best friends, family members, coworkers and romantic partners — and there are a number of key steps we can take to attract a new romantic love soulmate. And we must be willing to put in a little time and effort.

She used the example of a single mother who was recently out of work. The mother would actively take steps to find another job. She would update her resume, go on interviews, and talk to others about finding a job. She wouldn’t be sitting at home saying “if it’s meant to be it will happen.” However, this is what most single women are doing when it comes to finding love. She encouraged people to get online, check out dating sites, ask friends for help, and put out into the universe the intention to find love.

Other barriers to finding love may be our own mental roadblocks or limited beliefs about it. “There are a lot of people locked into their story,” Ford shared, explaining sometimes women over 60 will get discouraged and quote statistics about how there are more women than men left in the dating pool. Or some women will tell themselves only once they lose weight will they find love. But Arielle’s mother-in-law found love online at age 80, and the average wedding dress size sold in the United States is a size 16, she said.

If you’re thinking you have to lose weight to find love, it isn’t true. You have to let go of that belief,” she said.


Step to Manifesting a Soulmate
Ford also shared the steps she used in order to find her own true love at the age of 44. They include:

Forgiveness — She decided to forgive herself for past relationships, and made a list of men who she’d judged as having done her wrong in some way, so she could forgive them as well. “Forgiving is not about forgetting what happened or condoning what happens, but it is about letting go,” she said.

Clarity — We need to be clear about what our heart and soul desires in a partner, which is not about making a shopping list, such as tall, blue eyes, athletic build, etc. It’s an honest assessment of what is important to us. To create her own list, Ford looked back at the men in her life and noted the qualities they had that she knew she wanted, and a list of things she didn’t want. The list can be as long or as short as you need it to be—it can be 10 or a 100 items, she said. Two important things that should be on everyone’s list are: “My soulmate is open, willing and available for a long-term committed, monogamous marriage or relationship.” And if we know we want children, that should be included as well. The second is to add “My soulmate already lives within 50 miles of my town or is willing to move,” unless we are looking to move as well.

She also recommends sitting down with a friend and reviewing the list so we get another perspective. For example, does he really need to be a CEO and concert-level pianist? Or can he be just an okay pianist? We want someone to question us as to whether the items on the list will contribute to our long-term happiness, and be sure we didn’t miss any deal breakers.

Release — Next, it’s time to release the list. This helps us become unattached to the outcome. Once Ford had her list, she wrote out another copy on nice stationary and burned it under the light of a new moon. To celebrate the release, she took herself out for lunch and ordered a glass of champagne—toasting her as yet unknown soulmate.

Vision Board — The final step is to create a vision board of your future. A collage of magazine clippings and images on a piece of poster board—a visual representation of the future you’re intending. We are not trying to manifest Brad Pitt or George Clooney, she explained, but rather a lifestyle. So include anything that evokes the feelings we are looking to manifest in a relationship, from a couple holding hands on a beach to a nice meal we would like to share together. This vision board helps focus our intentions and lets us manifest what our life together will look like.

Once we have all these steps completed, and we’ve created space for your future soulmate, the fun part begins. Now, Arielle said, “it’s a matter of waiting to see what the universe will bring you.”

For more from Ford and the other 25 experts in mind, body and spirit topics, sign up FREE to Season 2 of the Living an Elevated Existence Summit.


Arielle Ford: Secrets to Attract Your Soulmate

Have you ever wondered what it takes to find the love of your life? Is it your dream to find a life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you?

Arielle Ford, bestselling author of “The Soulmate Secret,” has been called, “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love,” and she joined Elevated Existence Magazine founder, Tammy Mastroberte, as part of the Living an Elevated Existence Mind, Body & Soul Summit to discuss how to attract a soulmate using the tools and techniques she herself applied to attract her husband, Brian, at age 44.

“For me, a soulmate is first and foremost somebody you can completely be yourself with, and somebody who you share unconditional love, and when you look into each other’s eyes, you feel like you are coming home . . . it can be a lover, parents, kids, business partners, co-workers, and even your cats and dogs fit into that,” Ford shared on the call.

But when it comes to romantic love, the fastest way to manifest it is to start being grateful for the soulmates we already have in life, such as family and friends, and to understand there is no such thing as only one soulmate.

“I don’t know who started the big fat lie that we only get one love in a lifetime. I know one woman who is married to her third soulmate because she outlived the first two,” Ford explained. She also pointed out there are 7.2 billion people alive on the plant and approximately half of them are single, so statistically we can’t not meet our soulmate!

Ford woke up one day at 43 years old and realized she forgot to get married, she explained. She had worked hard on her career and loved her life, but her bed was empty and she knew something was missing. Upon looking at her life and how well she had done in her career, she got the idea of using the same techniques – special prayers, rituals, intentions – to find love. Within six months she met her husband Brian during a business meeting, and three weeks later she was engaged.

“As soon as Brian and I got together, I suddenly became the poster child for women over 40 to fall in love,” she said, explaining she would share the soulmate secret process with people watch them having amazing success. Even her 80-year-old mother-in-law used it to find new love!

“I shared it with my mother-in-law and within three weeks she had a date, which led to her being with her next soulmate,” Ford said. “This has worked for men and women in over 40 countries around the world, and I get emails every single day from people about finding love. It works if you are wiling to put a little time into it.”

If we got fired from our job, we would know exactly what to do to get another one, said Ford. We would update our resume, go online to look for work, network with people and go on job interviews. We would take action, and we need to do the same with our love life.

“What happens, particularly with women, is if they have to find a job or a new car or a place to live, they go into action, but when it comes to their love life, they kind of lean back on the couch and say, ‘well, if it’s meant to be it will happen.’ You would never do that about a job,” Ford noted. “Not only are you looking for your soulmate, but your soulmate is also looking for you. But they can’t find you if your not leaving the house, or if your not online, or if your not in the game. It’s your job to put yourself in the game – that is the first thing that has to happen.”


Steps for Manifesting a Soulmate
Ford shared her key steps  to manifesting love – steps she followed herself and has taught to people all over the world.

Step 1: Forgiveness — The first step is all about forgiveness, especially forgiving ourselves for any judgments we placed on ourselves for not doing the right thing in past relationships. But we also need to forgive others we think have done us wrong. This step is about also clearing out the emotional blocks we carry from the past.

Step 2: Clarity – We need to uncover and get clear about the traits we want in our soulmate, and not jut the physical appearance, but the heart traits, said Ford.

“You want to be looking for things that are going to contribute to your long-term happiness,” she said. “Most people are clear about what they don’t want and not clear about what they do want, so they can start with the ‘don’t want’ list and then turn that into what they do want.”

We should start by looking at the last two or three relationships and list all the things we don’t want in a person, such as lying, cheating and smoking. Then write a list of things we do want, such as loyal, kind, generous, monogamous, and puts my needs first.

“Having this clarity is really critical, and in some ways the hardest because it requires the most time to really ponder and think about,” said Ford. “Then once you do that, you write out your soulmate wish list all in positive statements.”

This is also when we can add some physical qualities we would like our soulmate to have, such as gray hair – something Ford had on her list and actually found in her husband Brian.

“I also had on my list that English would be a first language because I had dated a lot of foreigners and even thought they spoke English it’s different from having it as a first language,” she said. “I also wanted somebody who could walk unassisted because I like to go for walks every single day, so it was a mix of heart traits and physical qualities.”

Know what your ‘must have’s are,’ she explained. We don’t always get everything we want, but be specific on the things most important to you. After you have the list, give it to a trusted friend to make sure you have not missed anything important.

“For example, I’m a big cat lover, and I always have been, but I once dated a guy who is allergic to cats and the first time he came to my condo he started coughing, sneezing and chocking. So a cat lover was on my list,” she shared.

Step 3: Release Ceremony – We need to release the list to the universe, and while we can keep a copy, we should not be obsessive about it or checking it every day, said Ford. For her release ceremony she looked on the calendar for the next new moon, and she wrote out her list on a beautiful piece of stationary, and took it to the cove near her home at noon. She read through the list, said a prayer of gratitude to thank the universe for sending her the perfect and right partner, and then burned the list and tossed it into the ocean. Then she took herself out to lunch, ordered a glass of champagne and toasted her soulmate.

“I said, ‘wherever you are right now, just know that the cosmic welcome mat has been put out for you, and I’m ready whenever you are,’” she explained.

Some of the things we can do with our list include:

— put it above or below an altar

— put in under our pillow or a mattress

–put it in our favorite spiritual book

–roll it up into a scroll, put it into a red or pink helium balloon and release it into the heavens

“The point is just to let it go,” she noted. “Of course, keep a copy. Three years after Brian and I were married, he came running down the stairs holding this beat up yellow legal pad, and he was saying, ‘I found your list, your soulmate wish list, and I’m everything but two.’”

Feathering the Nest
It’s important to get into the state of the mind where our soulmate is already with  us – even before he or she arrives, and Ford calls this “feathering the nest.” It starts with literally preparing our home energetically to receive our soulmate.

“If you were living with an ex, or they spent time there, even though they are not physically there anymore, they have left invisible energy that you need to clear out,” she explained.

There are several ways to do this. Here are a few of her suggestions:

— Hire a professional energy worker or feng shui expert

— Buy white sage and burn it over a bowl while walking around the house. Pay special attention to the window jams, door jams and inside the closets.

— Open all the windows and doors on a nice sunny day, and take a broom in your hand. Using your imagination, literally sweep the other person’s energy out of the doors and windows of your home.

Additionally, if there are photographs, souvenirs, or momentos of things that are from an ex, they should be removed from the home. Even if we are not conscious of them, they are having an unconscious effect tying us to the person and our past. We can get rid of it, or at least put it in the garage. If we don’t have a garage, give it to a friend to store for us.

“I was talking to a friend of mine who is a well known tapping expert,” said Ford. “He was recovering from a breakup and tapping about it, but he still was not meeting anyone. I had a conversation with him and he found photos of his ex in the home. He got rid of them and then two days later he met the women he is now married to. This stuff is really important to do, and it really works.”

It is also important to physically make room for our soulmate in our home. Even if we live in a very small apartment, it is showing a sign of faith to make room for them. This can be an empty drawer in the dresser, half of a shelf in the bathroom, or an inch of space in the closet, she said.

“If you are living in a bigger place and have two car garage, park on your side of the garage and not in the middle. If you have a bigger bed, sleep on one side and not in the middle,” she noted. “Start to symbolically show the universe you literally have room in your home for another.”

We can also do this with our time, and start scheduling time in to spend with our soulmate. For example, block out three hours on a Thursday night. If that time comes and your soulmate is not there, then go out and get a manicure, or go to the movies with a friend, said Ford. But actually put it into your schedule.

“I call this ‘living as if,’ when you’re ‘living as if’ you are knowing and trusting what you’ve asked for is already yours and your behavior is following your beliefs,” she said. “One of the things I did when I was manifesting my soulmate was every time I passed a card store I went in and bought birthday cards, anniversary cards, I Love You Just Because cards, Valentine’s Day cards – I had dozens of cards, all of which Brian now has because I knew that someday I would be giving it to him. So it wasn’t like I was waiting for the soulmate to buy the cards. I was anticipating and trusting that the soulmate was on the way.”

She told the story about a Hollywood actress who loved to cook, and every night she would come home from the set of her TV show and set the table for two. The woman would use the good China and silver, and have flowers, candles and music. She would make a delicious dinner, and by the end of six months, her soulmate was there at the table with her.

“We can’t see gravity, but we know it’s there, and it’s is the same thing with the law of attraction. It’s working all the time whether or not you believe it, whether or not you are using it in your favor,” Ford explained. “The law of attraction states, we draw to us the people, places and experiences that match our state of being, so if our state of being is –‘I am so lovable. I am so grateful for all the love in my life.’ – you will have one experience. If it’s, ‘I’m such a loser, nobody will love me, I’m too old, I’m too fat, I’m too broke,’ the experience you are going to have will be that.”


Creating Romantic Abundance in Your Life

By Amy Leigh Mercree

If you are reading this article, you have access to the Internet and most likely a safe place quiet enough for you to indulge in some reading for entertainment and personal enhancement. You have time to devote to leisure and recreational activities, including reading, which means you are rich compared to much of the world’s population.

We are incredibly abundant in our lives, yet, for many there is an emptiness to be filled. We seek to fill it with romantic love, things and interaction. Some of us search for spiritual connection to fill the emptiness, but many are living with a sense of lack within.

How can we be so abundant, but live in varying states of internal lack?

It has become the norm in society to cultivate cravings and then endeavor to fill them. We need those new skinny jeans for a night out – then we’ll feel beautiful and like we fit in. We have to have those special face cleansing cloths to pamper our skin after a workout – then we will give our face the best and prove to ourselves we are worthy of the very best.

What if we could step outside of the hamster wheel of external validation? What if we could find our worth within? What if we could be filled with the divine power of our own uniqueness? How would our lives change?

Well, we would live from our creative souls and from a sense of sharing and community, and could think in terms of interconnection among all life. And we can start this mindset blooming within our beings now.

Start with a nightly list in your journal of 30 things you are grateful for in your life. Look at how abundant you are! Record each night what you are grateful for, and feel the blessings of your life with your heart. The more attention you place on the positive, the more positive you create in your life. It’s simple, natural law. Your attention creates your reality.

You are also romantically abundant whether you are coupled or single. Take a gratitude inventory of all the love and caring in your life. Do you feel love between you and your sister’s dog? Between you and a close friend? Between you and a coworker? Did you help your mother clean her car? Did you share a smile with a neighbor? Did you snuggle with your boss’s cat when you stopped by to feed her? Did your best friend send you a sweet card? There is love everywhere. There is caring flowing between people, animals and plants all around you. Interconnection is a Web designed to help you experience loving abundance. Let yourself tap into it!

When you choose to experience interconnection and loving abundance, you give your romantic life a boost. When you notice and identify those moments of abundance and express your appreciation and thanks for them, you exponentialize them. You harness the electrical charge and energy they contain, and it infuses your life – including your love life. You can create romantic abundance today by counting your blessings and choosing to experience love and caring each day. Share your love, experience true abundance, and romance will follow.

amy leigh mercree - spiritual datingAmy Leigh Mercree is an expert dating & relationship coach, entrepreneur, adventure guide and internationally acclaimed author of “The Spiritual Girl’s Guide to Dating: Your Enlightened Path to Love, Sex, and Soul Mates.” Visit for your complete evolved dater’s toolkit, and follow Amy on Twitter: @AmyLeighMercree.



Katherine Woodward Thomas Shares 4 Steps to Manifest Love

More than 10 years ago, author Katherine Woodward Thomas needed a miracle in her love life. She was 41 years old, had never been married, and wanted to find “the one” for her. She came up with a set of principles to help herself in this process, and six months later she was engaged.

Since then, she has guided more than 100,000 people all over the world through her process, and is about to embark on another seven-week online course to teach others how to manifest love in their lives. She calls this process, ”Calling in the One,” and shared four basic principles in a recent Evolving Wisdom online seminar to help people get started right away.

“The reason it’s so difficult to find love has to do with the approach we are taking,” she said in the seminar. “We look at all these external reasons as to why we can’t find love – there are no good men out there, or all the good ones are taken – instead of looking within to all the internal barriers we have built against love.”

For most people struggling to find love, she says there is a “huge gap between how much we want love, and how much we are open to receiving it,” and this gap needs to be closed or a person will continue to keep love at bay without realizing it. Once these barriers are identified, it is easy to shift, she said.

“The process is about identifying and releasing these inner obstacles to love, and also about empowering you to evolve beyond your old, hurtful patterns in love,” Woodward Thomas shared.

Here are the four basic principles to get started:

Principle 1: Begin to See Yourself as the Source of Your Experiences in Love Up Until Now – It is important to take ownership of our love lives in order to be empowered to create a new experience – one that is different than those in the past. “You need to make conscious the unconscious ways you are showing up for love that are shaping your life,” she said. “Be willing to take responsibility for how you are the creator of your experience.”

Many people are resistant to this idea at first because relationships are a two-way street, and some have dated people who did not treat them properly. But putting our attention on what the other person did or didn’t do is a “dead end,” Woodward Thomas noted. “When you have the attention on another person rather than yourself, you are not accessing the power to create a breakthrough in your own life.”

She also cautions against blaming ourselves, as blame and shame keep us stuck. In order to create a shift, we need to see ourselves as the source of our experience without making ourselves wrong. We need to look at our beliefs about ourselves and love, and find the patterns in our love lives that keep happening over and over again.

“Are you attracting unavailable people, or are you chronically alone and not attracting people at all?” she asked. “There is a way you are showing up in a relationship that is signaling people. How have you been showing up in ways that have been perpetuating this experience and creating the same dynamic?”

Once we uncover this, we need to take 100 percent responsibility for it.

Principle 2: Complete Your Past – Take a look at the ways we are still closed off, mistrustful and carrying the weight of resentment and burden from the past when it comes to our love life. When this is happening, there is not enough of us in the present to create and manifest now, said Woodward Thomas.

There are several incompletions, but she shared three main categories:

1. Old, unresolved resentments carried against someone in a relationship, and being are mistrusting of other people so we are not opening up our heart.

2. Old agreements with ourselves such as, “I’ll never love anyone like that again;” or “I’ll never be happier than my mother was;” or “I’ll always be faithful,” even if we are divorced for 10 years. These agreements have tremendous influence over choices being made in the present, and serve as intentions.

3. Toxic Ties causing us to lose personal power. Some of us experience such deep betrayals it can be hard to process.

“What resentments are you holding from the past? Where do you feel victimized and incomplete? Give up being victimized, and go back to the first principle of taking full responsibility for your role in the dynamic,” Woodward Thomas said. “Even if it’s only 3 percent of you, you want your attention on that 3 percent.”

She continued: “‘How did I give my power away to this person?’ Sit with that question, and look for all the ways you allowed it to happen. Maybe you were more attentive to someone else’s needs than your own. If you were over-giving in order to prove your value, what can you do to reclaim it? How did you collude in your own victimization? Make a vow to yourself to never, ever again betray yourself in this way.”

Until we remove these obstacles in our path, we will mirror them in another relationship and that is not what we want, she noted.

Principle 3: Transform Your Love Identity Core Beliefs – These are our biggest barriers to love, according to Woodward Thomas. The beliefs we have about ourselves; our value; our worthiness to love an be loved; our desirability; our beliefs about men and women; how others feel toward us; how much we are wanted and valued by others; whether or not others choose us – they all play a part in what we are attracting to ourselves. Do we believe we are supported by life and blessed in love, or do we believe we are cursed in love?

The most common are:

—  I am alone, invaluable or not wanted

—  Men always leave

—  Men always disappoint me

—  Women don’t want me

—  Marriage is a trap

—  Relationships never last

—  Love is unpredictable and dangerous

“For the most part, this consciousness is really outside of our awareness, and many of us formed these beliefs before we could speak,” Woodward Thomas shared, asking us to notice the things that come naturally, and struggle-free for us – be it career, money, health, friendships. This means we have a healthy entitlement that these things happen for us, and they come to fruition and are consistent with our sense of self and identity. Where we struggle are the areas we are trying to create something outside of our core sense and beliefs.

“If you believe you are alone, men always leave, and life doesn’t support you in having love, these beliefs live on an energy level in the body like a home base, so no matter how hard you try, you will always come back to this,” she explained, noting it is important to name these beliefs clearly or we will continue to respond in ways that unconsciously generate more of the same story.

“Imagine you are seeing someone you just met, and you have a great connection and date for a couple weeks,” she said. “Then suddenly that person backs up and doesn’t call for a day or two days. Maybe that person is contemplating if they are going to give up their single life and ask you if you want to be in an exclusive relationship, but inside you experience this as dread in your body, and then as a preemptive strike, you pull back, shut down, and send an e-mail that you don’t want to see them anymore. You then fulfill the story and create more evidence that the core belief is true.”

This step is not about clearing out all of our issues, but about identifying and shifting the core sense of who we are – like going from a black and white world to color, Woodward Thomas said.

“The way you shift is to challenge the story and turn your attention to what is really true,” she said, offering these affirmations:

—  I was born to love and be loved.

—  I have the power to create love in my life.

—  I’m not meant to be alone.

“Identify the new ways of showing up that will generate a completely different story after you identify the ways you have been pushing love away,” she said. “When you shift, others begin to respond to you differently, and there is a mirroring of your deeper truths.”

Principle 4: Become a Magnet for Love – Finding the right person is like finding a needle in a haystack – it is something you magnetize to you and your life, Woodward Thomas said. The magnetism happens in our energetic field, and sends a signal out to life that we are ready and available.

“Create a vision, and take steps in line and congruent with the future you are committed to creating,” she explained. “It’s not something you are trying to get or run after, it’s something you are starting to co-create. You connect with your vision, and start to become the woman or man you need to be in order to create the vision.”

When we begin to live from our power center – a place within us where we are deeply connected to ourselves – we can begin to ask the following questions:

— What do I most deeply desire?

— When I’m anchored into the possibility of the deeper truth of who I am, what is possible for me to have?

— What do I desire to experience with my loved one in this relationship?

— What do I hope to contribute to the others in the world through the field of our love?

An example she shared is: “My vision is to create a delicious relationship with a beloved partner where together we are experiencing deep truth, mutual support, and an almost intuitive soul connection.”

Once we become the man or woman we need to be in order to create our vision, we must feel and live as if it already exists – we must live the vision, and set the intention of creating it. Then it will be alive in our energy field, and we will be more likely to manifest it.

“Make a list – ask yourself, ‘who do I need to be in my life to receive the fulfillment of this vision,’” said Woodward Thomas. “This is the most important list you will ever make in the process of being magnetic to your partner. Instead of the who, why, what, when and how, you are focused on preparing yourself and drawing the future to you – and making sure you are ready to receive it.”

For more information, or to sign up for the seven-week course, starting Feb. 5, 2013, visit