VIDEO: Stop Manifesting What You DON’T Want

We say our affirmations. We do our visualizations. We make our list of intentions or goals. We even keep our gratitude journals.

And then something happens to annoy us, aggravate us or upset us, and we make a crucial mistake when it comes to manifesting.

We complain about it.

We tell our co-workers, friends, family members — anyone who will listen. We dwell on it, focus on it and talk about it.

In doing this, we are sending the message “bring me more of this” to the Universe, and we start to manifest what we DON’T want, instead of what we do.

The same is true when we focus on anything in our life we are unhappy with right now.

In this video, I share how to quickly shift the energy why you find yourself complaining so you cancel out the negativity it brings in.

Editor’s Advice: We Create with the Heart

By Tammy Mastroberte

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, the law of attraction just doesn’t seem to work in your favor. Maybe you’ve set intentions, created a vision board, practiced affirmations, visualized the end result and tried your hardest, but you still have not manifested the relationship, job or paycheck you want.

I feel your pain. I’ve been there too!

Recently, I started a new online course from best-selling author, Sonia Choquette called “Creating Your Heart’s Desire,” so I could review it for Elevated Existence. Choquette also has a book called, “Your Heart’s Desire: Instructions for Creating the Life You Really Want,” and the online course allows a person to go at his or her own pace, view videos, listen to audio files and utilize a downloadable workbook.

Well, within the first few videos I watched, I learned something I had to share! Are you ready?

We don’t create with the head. We create with the heart.

Now, I’m sure you’ve heard how important our thoughts are in the creation process and in activating the law of attraction. And this is still very true. But the other piece many law of attraction experts talk about is the feeling or emotion behind the thought – and that is key!

“The intellect does not create. The heart is what creates,” Choquette says in the course. “You don’t create when you are frustrated. You need to get your vitality up.”

This means we need to feel passion, excitement, joy and love about what we are creating. In fact, we need to feel these things in general in order to keep ourselves in a place of allowing, and at a vibration matching the wonderful things we are calling into our lives.

Choquette recommends starting to focus on the things we love – be it a walk in the park, cooking in our kitchen, spending time with our children, or even the smell of fresh sheets out of the dryer. For me, some of the things I love are working on a new issue of Elevated Existence Magazine, writing, reading a good book, laughing with friends, learning new things, and teaching what I learn to other people.

“Connect to what creates excitement and that feeling of love in your heart,” says Choquette.

This week, make a list of the things you love and that bring you joy. Pay attention to them, talk about them, focus on them, and begin to uncover the feelings they evoke within you. It is from this heart-centered place that true creation begins.

Also, many of us may be confused about what we want, and being focused is another important part of manifestation. “Vague focus will bring vague results,” Choquette explains. One of the exercises she shares is called “Diving for Gold,” which can help you uncover what your spirit or soul truly desires.

Either in the shower, at the end of a meditation session, or other quiet moment you have, take a deep breath and finish this sentence:

“If I weren’t afraid, I would…”

You may be surprised at what emerges from within. You can even repeat the exercise each day to see what answers you get. This is a way of letting your spirit or soul speak what it truly desires.

When we can connect to the feelings of passion, excitement and love, co-creating with the universe become a natural process. When we lead with the heart, it is easier for the mind will follow.

Happy manifesting!

Tammy_Mastroberte_headshotTammy Mastroberte
Founder, Publisher, Editorial Director
Elevated Existence Magazine
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Three Ways to Repel Negativity (And Attract What You Want in Life)

By Jennifer Garza

When it comes to the law of attraction and manifesting our desires, negativity is the fastest way to sabotage our goals. Here are three ways we can stop the flow of negativity in our lives.

Resist the urge to vent.

We all vent – it’s a way to blow off steam after a hard day or an argument with a friend. It seems harmless. However, recent studies show that this urge can actually be hazardous to your health. The problem with venting is that once you start, it’s hard to stop, and gripes can quickly turn into rumination. According to research, rumination sustains or increases feelings of sadness, creates negative thinking, interferes with ability to solve problems, and decreases motivation.

TIP: Take a two-week no-venting challenge. You’ll be surprised how after a respite, you’ll notice that venting creates feelings of heaviness. During the challenge, find humor in your situations and laugh. Replace your urges to vent with gratitude for the good things in your life!

Focus on the positive.         

Negativity attracts negativity. Ever notice how a day that begins badly usually gets worse? If you wake up on the wrong side of the bed your thoughts swing to the negative. Do an increased amount of negative situations actually occur? Maybe, maybe not. But situations are at least perceived more negatively.

For instance, instead of ignoring the rude person in line for coffee, you say to yourself “What a jerk. People are so inconsiderate.” This line of thought increases your “inconsiderate people” radar throughout the day. However, if you chose to say to yourself “Aw, poor guy probably had a rotten morning like me!” and smile, you might be surprised how your mood shifts. And your kindness may have the same effect on the gentleman who left his manners at home that morning.

TIP: For every negative situation, try to figure out what opportunity exists there. Is it an opportunity to learn or extend kindness? If you can’t find the silver lining, realize you can’t control everything and everyone and release the negative thoughts. Remember, research shows that persistent negative thoughts can contribute to depression.

Remind yourself that you are in control of your feelings.

You will have bad days – we all do. But when you feel blue, instead of blaming the weather or a loved one’s comment for your mood – decide to take charge. You may not be able to control your circumstances, but you can control your thoughts about the circumstance. Realize that no situation or person can make you feel badly unless you allow it.

TIP: Figure out what you’re telling yourself that is contributing to your negative frame of mind. Does one negative thought like “I feel stuck in my job right now” spiral into generalization like “I’ll be stuck in this crappy job forever?” Replace these generalizations with positive affirmations for the future!

Jennifer Garza, M.S., has a master of science in counseling and psychology. She is a former therapist and has taught life enhancement classes at venues including college campuses, state conferences and prisons. She is the author of the inspiration journal “365 Days to Happiness: Use Your Strengths, Thoughts, and Dreams to Manifest a New Life.” Garza has been featured in Natural Health magazine, AOL,, Young, and on FTNS radio. Visit her website at or connect with her on Facebook